How to help someone who has experienced an ectopic pregnancy

We often hear from family and friends of people who are going through or recovering from the ordeal of ectopic pregnancy. Many want to know how best they can be there for their loved ones. Some of the women that we have supported have movingly shared their stories and acts of kindness that have helped them through one of the most challenging times in their lives.

My fiancé ran me a bath, washed my hair then left me to have a cry. He came back to dry me off, put me in my PJs then snuggled up in bed whilst I cried some more in his arms Jean

Being with my family and talking to the EPT helpline when wanting advice on trying again. Kerri

A nurse sat by me and chatted at night when I found hard to sleep. Candace

My parents were my rock Manni

My fiancé held me, washed me and cooked for me. We also had a cremation and have a memorial plaque giving us a place to visit our angel. Hayley

My partner gave me a little teddy sprayed with his aftershave to help me sleep at night. Sabrina

My best friend came round at 8pm with a hot water bottle to go around my neck. My husband got every pillow in house and made pillow fort for me to sleep in while he slept on the sofa. Kimberley

As well as my family showing me support and kindness, a fellow patient made sure I ate my meals and insisted the medics gave me pain relief when I was in so much pain I couldn’t eat. Julie

One particular doctor was really supportive and got me an ambulance on a Friday night to another hospital so I could be scanned. On the following Tuesday when she saw me waiting for hCG results as an outpatient she “barged” into clinic, looked at the results, moved me to a private room, called the consultant and shouted it was urgent. I was operated on as my hCG levels were 8000+. The next day, in her own time, she visited with pictures of tube and explained everything. Kerri

I was rushed into hospital on Christmas Eve. When I came out of hospital the whole family had put Christmas on hold. Libby

My husband and a blessing from the priest. Priscilla

My husband saved my life by actually forcing me to go to hospital. Lydia

Walking the dog; People at work sending a beautiful card and coming out to the car park on my first day back at work to hold my hand; Reminding me to breathe when I became terrified or when someone asked me how I was. Frances

My partner deserted me but the EPT website and friends and family were great support. Becky

My mum sat with me every day while my husband was at work and did crosswords with me. It really helped not to be alone and to have distractions while I came to terms with my ectopic. Alex