Your experiences

Experiencing baby loss can be a lonely time. Through our on-line community, we strive to offer mutual support to women and their families. We frequently receive stories and illustrations which evoke the deep emotions felt by those who have suffered an ectopic pregnancy and you can read a selection of them here. Thank you to our contributors for sharing these pieces with us and in doing so offering support to women suffering similar experiences.

I experienced an ectopic in March 2011

I received a great deal of support from the forum and I’m very grateful you’re here to support women going through this horrendous experience.

My baby would have turned 2 years this month. I did a drawing of my experience as sometimes it’s easier to convey pictures of how it feels.

I’m an aspiring illustrator and I drew this as it’s the main flashback I have even now.

Gemma's drawing

Last year after my ectopic

I drew Ectopia, a comic of some of my experiences during those first few days. It’s very amateur and my own personal experience. Alex

If I remain childless

I would like to think I’ll try and talk about it whenever I can so people lose their fear of it. But I probably won’t. It’s like the ectopic pregnancy. No one ever talks about them, or miscarriages. But lots of people have them, suffer quietly and feel like the world’s caved in. Then they get better and never mention it again. Of course that makes perfect sense – why go over something which is so painful? But aren’t we letting ourselves and other people down? Aren’t we denying the truth of our human existence which is that it is nasty, brutish and short and filled with days of angst and despair as well as days of skipping and pay rises and fluffy clouds in blue skies that go on forever? Read more …
Edith (not real name)

Yvette wrote a poem about her loss, that might be useful if you have experienced this difficult loss.

If you require emotional support, please feel free to use our message boards. People use these fora to share their experiences and give each other mutual support on a range of topics and many women find this a huge comfort.