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Can't stop thinking about the baby
Can't stop thinking about the baby
At that point I was 6 weeks pregnant so they decided to try Methotrexate. The first shot did not work, so I had to get a second one too. After that the hcg levels started to drop, so I thought it was working.
Long story short, a week after the second dose I started having some pain again and also swelling in the abdomen (I later learnt it was a sign of internal bleeding). After a couple of exhausting visits to the hospital it was decided that I needed surgery - by then I was 9 weeks pregnant.
Indeed, after surgery the doctor told me I'd had a lot of internal bleeding and that my tube had ruptured gradually - that's why I did not feel the extreme pain that most people experience.
He also emphasized that the "ectopic" was very big. I didn't ask him how big exactly or whether the baby was alive - I was too afraid of the answer. Before surgery I'd signed the papers stating that the embryo (or 'pregnancy' tissue as they called it) would be sent to a lab for research and later buried in a communal burial. I still think that it was the right choice - claiming it for a private burial would simply have been too heartbreaking. And also, I'm living here temporarily so I wouldn't even know where and how to arrange a funeral.
But I just can't stop thinking about how the baby was removed surgically from inside of me and how it must have died at that moment and how it will be buried and what it looked like... And how I will leave this place but he/she will stay here forever.
This is no doubt the worst thing in all of this. I don't think I'll ever get over this. I feel not only sad but also guilty somehow.
I'm just wondering whether others who have experienced it also have similar thoughts. And how to get over it.
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I just hope things will get better in time..