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Really Scared
Really Scared
So I found out I was pregnant a week ago today only by chance as was spotting after my 'period' since then had 2 scans (Fri and yesterday) and bloods and they have said that my hcg levels only raised by 50% in 48hr instead of doubled and they saw a mass in my right tube so have told me it's eptopic and I have to go bk today for injection.
So scared as first pregnancy and as I didn't even miss a period I have no idea how pregnant I am or what's going to happen, scared they have got something wrong and scared that might effect getting pregnant again as in 30s now.
Do I need someone to come with me today when have injection?
Any advice I would be grateful
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Also scared that as I don't know how pregnant I am that they have got it wrong (I know they can't see a healthy baby before 6 weeks but don't know when it's eptopic) it's all happening so quickly but I'm assuming they r sure because of the hcg level?
Just so confused
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I am so sorry to hear! How are you holding up? I will be thinking about you today while you go through your injection. I had the injection as well. Please let me know how you are feeling in the next few days.
Also, like Lynette said, none of this is your fault! It is not your fault because you were being cautious and on the pill. It is not your fault because it is unplanned. You did not cause this. It simply happened (which I hate to say because I hated when the doctor told me that, too, but it's true).
Take care of yourself and let any of us here know if you need to talk.
Jenna
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had the injection now - was slightly shocked at number of possible side effects but trying to deal with the physical side of things as still a bit numb emotionally at the moment
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I had no pain for 2 days and then it all hit me. But we're all different! Just listen to your body.
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Managed to have a chat with the dad last night as he called which was good and he going to try to get back at weekend but at same time has made me feel really alone today - sorry probably sounds like I'm never happy!
I just wish this wasn't happening
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I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy and loss,
When we experience ectopic pregnancy we are suddenly faced with a life threatening emergency and it's treatment, reduction in fertility, concerns about the future and the loss of our babies. Experiencing any one of these is an ordeal, putting them together is immense and your feelings are completely normal, whether the pregnancy was planned or not.
I know that when I had my ectopic pregnancy I also looked for a reason and almost automatically we tend to blame ourselves. From the bottom of my heart, there is nothing you could have done to prevent the ectopic pregnancy from happening. As the ladies have kindly also mentioned, I cannot emphasise enough - you are not to blame. Please be kind to yourself.
Some hospitals are better than others in the information given after methotraxate injection but we have information on our website if you need any more-
http://www.ectopic.org.uk/patients/treatment/
There is no time frame for how long it takes us to heal emotionally and it is completely normal to feel anxious about the future. We will never forget our pregnancy or babies but we can learn to accept what has happened and crucially understand that it wasn't our fault.
We will all be here for you for as long as you need,
Sending much love,
Karen x
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