Hi all, i am looking for some advice please. My daughter has had two ectopic pregnancies in 5 months. Both have resulted in the tubes being removed and also half an ovary. So we are pretty damn certain that there's no hope of natural conception now. Obviously, like most on here, her and her partners' lives have been turned upside down and inside out in less than 6 months. When she had her second ectopic pregnancy she had actually started to rupture. Information, advice and after care have been non existent and i am so concerned that they will both come crashing down (they are both holding it together at the moment). I would just really like to know if anyone has had therapy to help come to terms with such life changing events and what types of therapies have people tried. My daughter wants to look for alternative therapies to traditional counselling.
My thoughts are with all of you who have had to deal with loss in any way shape or form. It's awful for everyone concerned and as a parent, having to watch your child and her lovely fella go through so much heartache is heartbreaking. Any thoughts or ideas regarding therapies for would be greatly appreciated. Thank you xx
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Post Ectopic therapy
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Hi there, I'm so sorry to hear about your daughter's losses. This board has been invaluable for me in the healing process and I hope your daughter uses it as well.
After my ectopic, I went through Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) therapy. I'm not going to pretend to know the details of how it works or why it is used, but from my understanding using EMDR is supposed to help you lessen the impact that traumatic memories have on you. I remember my therapist telling me that I was struggling so much because anytime I thought about my ectopic my body was reacting with emotional and stress responses just like it was happening in that moment all over again. The EMDR helped my get to a place where I don't have those same intense responses when talking or thinking about my experience.
I'm not sure if that's the kind of alternative you're looking for, but it really helped me.
Dana
After my ectopic, I went through Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) therapy. I'm not going to pretend to know the details of how it works or why it is used, but from my understanding using EMDR is supposed to help you lessen the impact that traumatic memories have on you. I remember my therapist telling me that I was struggling so much because anytime I thought about my ectopic my body was reacting with emotional and stress responses just like it was happening in that moment all over again. The EMDR helped my get to a place where I don't have those same intense responses when talking or thinking about my experience.
I'm not sure if that's the kind of alternative you're looking for, but it really helped me.
Dana
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Hi Dana,
Thank you for the info. That’s exactly the type of suggestion I’m looking for. Something different. I will pass it on to my daughter. X
Thank you for the info. That’s exactly the type of suggestion I’m looking for. Something different. I will pass it on to my daughter. X
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If you contact the Early Pregnancy unit some have specific counselling available (certainly oxford offers counselling for people who have struggled specifically with baby loss), you can call the EPAU for referral.
Or you can go via the GP for more generalised talking Therapies
Or you can go via the GP for more generalised talking Therapies
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Re: Post Ectopic therapy
Hi AL69,
I am so very sorry to hear of everything your daughter has been through, and can imagine how heartbreaking it is as a mother. I know how hard it was for my own mother to watch me and my husband have to go through it. I ended up finding an acupuncturist, but I would say it wasn't for fertility specifically, rather one part of some life changes I made after my ectopics.
The Trust believes that talking through what happened and your emotions as and when you can helps the healing process. We operate a helpline service, and if your daughter or her husband would like to speak to someone who has been through a similar experience, do feel free to call, details are below. In addition, you can ask to see a GP at your practice and ask them to explore ways in which you can get help and this can include referrals for "talking therapies" or counseling. The charity, Mind, may also be of assistance. They have local centres and support groups and can offer services on a means-tested basis or sometimes free. You can find your local centre following this link if that may be useful too: http://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/local-minds/
It's very loving and thoughtful of you to be seeking ways to help your daughter. Please let her know we are here for her, her partner, and yourself whenever needed for as long as needed.
With good wishes,
Michele
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I am so very sorry to hear of everything your daughter has been through, and can imagine how heartbreaking it is as a mother. I know how hard it was for my own mother to watch me and my husband have to go through it. I ended up finding an acupuncturist, but I would say it wasn't for fertility specifically, rather one part of some life changes I made after my ectopics.
The Trust believes that talking through what happened and your emotions as and when you can helps the healing process. We operate a helpline service, and if your daughter or her husband would like to speak to someone who has been through a similar experience, do feel free to call, details are below. In addition, you can ask to see a GP at your practice and ask them to explore ways in which you can get help and this can include referrals for "talking therapies" or counseling. The charity, Mind, may also be of assistance. They have local centres and support groups and can offer services on a means-tested basis or sometimes free. You can find your local centre following this link if that may be useful too: http://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/local-minds/
It's very loving and thoughtful of you to be seeking ways to help your daughter. Please let her know we are here for her, her partner, and yourself whenever needed for as long as needed.
With good wishes,
Michele
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Further information is available at ectopic.org.uk
Email us: ept@ectopic.org.uk
We provide a call-back helpline service: 020 7733 2653
The latest EPT newsletter is out now! You can take a look at the Winter edition and subscribe to our mailing list here: https://mailchi.mp/986bdd6091ee/ectopic-matters
Detailed medical information can be found on our website. Please remember online medical information is NO SUBSTITUTE for expert medical advice from your own health care team
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