Hi all,
I wondered if anyone else is having difficulty in managing their emotions? I am finding myself becoming very angry very esily, which is really not like me... I dont know whether this is related to my recent ectopic or not? I am sure hormonally I am all over the plce, but I just find myself getting really angry at small things.
x
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Managing Emotions?
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EctopicPUL
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Re: Managing Emotions?
Yes, I had that and also totally overwhelmed intially by small issues - calling the bank to get a number reset and encountering minor difficulties and in private I was in floods of tears. Lost in interest in normal things - couldn’t have given a flying fig about work and it’s taken nearly 2 months for it to be back but it’s still more of a job than identity. Also more intrespective now. Prefer to socialise with close friends rather than acquaintances. Things are just a bit more deep.
Strange how it changes you. Think the erratic nature of the hormones does settle but I still feel I’m a slightly different person. The trauma has made it a new Normal.
Hopefully your anger will settle. Hormones and trying fit back into a normal life when everything has changed is so hard
Strange how it changes you. Think the erratic nature of the hormones does settle but I still feel I’m a slightly different person. The trauma has made it a new Normal.
Hopefully your anger will settle. Hormones and trying fit back into a normal life when everything has changed is so hard
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LavaLamp2019
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Re: Managing Emotions?
Hi, thank you for your response. I am sorry to hear what you have been going through. It feels as though its completely irrelevant things that are setting me off. It sounds awful but I am not really thinking about the while experience very much, I dont know whether its some kind of blocking out I am doing or what.EctopicPUL wrote:Yes, I had that and also totally overwhelmed intially by small issues - calling the bank to get a number reset and encountering minor difficulties and in private I was in floods of tears. Lost in interest in normal things - couldn’t have given a flying fig about work and it’s taken nearly 2 months for it to be back but it’s still more of a job than identity. Also more intrespective now. Prefer to socialise with close friends rather than acquaintances. Things are just a bit more deep.
Strange how it changes you. Think the erratic nature of the hormones does settle but I still feel I’m a slightly different person. The trauma has made it a new Normal.
Hopefully your anger will settle. Hormones and trying fit back into a normal life when everything has changed is so hard
I am due to go back to work soon, hopefully that will give me some wort of focus,
I am sorry to hear that you are still feeling like this 2 months dwn the line. I do understand what you are saying, I do feel totally different but cannot quite put my finger on what makes me feel so different, of that make sense? I just dont feel like I am me anymore.
xx
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EPT Host 20
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Re: Managing Emotions?
Dear LavaLamp2019,
When we experience ectopic pregnancy, we are suddenly faced with a life threatening emergency and it's treatment, reduction in fertility, concerns about the future and the loss of our babies. Experiencing any one of these is an ordeal, putting them together is immense and your feelings are completely normal. Anger is one of the natural emotions we go through when dealing with loss and grief.
After a frightening ordeal like ectopic pregnancy, some women find that they suffer from Post Traumatic Stress and symptoms can include anxiety and not being able to focus on everyday things like work or anger. There are a number of avenues that you could look into to get the help that you need.
We at the Trust believe that talking through what happened and your emotions as and when you can helps the healing process. We operate a helpline service and there's no pressure whatsoever but if you would ever like the opportunity to speak over the phone to someone who has been through a similar experience, do feel free to call, details are below. We can take things at your pace entirely and you are free to ask any questions that are on your mind. You can talk about the ordeal you have been through and express your feelings to vent and let off some steam. We can exchange emails too, if you prefer that route. We'll simply be here for you, however you wish and for as long as you wish.
In addition, you can ask to see a GP at your practice and ask them to explore ways in which you can get help and this can include referrals for "talking therapies" or counselling. We have information on our website about finding counselling services.
The charity Mind may also be of assistance. They have local centres and support groups and can offer services on a means-tested basis or sometimes free. You can find your local centre following this link if that may be useful too: http://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/local-minds/
Many women experience feelings of isolation after an ectopic pregnancy - I did, too. It is a frightening experience. Like you, I reached out to the Trust for support and we will be here for you to lean on for as long as you need.
Sending much love,
Karen x
The Ectopic Pregnancy Trust
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When we experience ectopic pregnancy, we are suddenly faced with a life threatening emergency and it's treatment, reduction in fertility, concerns about the future and the loss of our babies. Experiencing any one of these is an ordeal, putting them together is immense and your feelings are completely normal. Anger is one of the natural emotions we go through when dealing with loss and grief.
After a frightening ordeal like ectopic pregnancy, some women find that they suffer from Post Traumatic Stress and symptoms can include anxiety and not being able to focus on everyday things like work or anger. There are a number of avenues that you could look into to get the help that you need.
We at the Trust believe that talking through what happened and your emotions as and when you can helps the healing process. We operate a helpline service and there's no pressure whatsoever but if you would ever like the opportunity to speak over the phone to someone who has been through a similar experience, do feel free to call, details are below. We can take things at your pace entirely and you are free to ask any questions that are on your mind. You can talk about the ordeal you have been through and express your feelings to vent and let off some steam. We can exchange emails too, if you prefer that route. We'll simply be here for you, however you wish and for as long as you wish.
In addition, you can ask to see a GP at your practice and ask them to explore ways in which you can get help and this can include referrals for "talking therapies" or counselling. We have information on our website about finding counselling services.
The charity Mind may also be of assistance. They have local centres and support groups and can offer services on a means-tested basis or sometimes free. You can find your local centre following this link if that may be useful too: http://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/local-minds/
Many women experience feelings of isolation after an ectopic pregnancy - I did, too. It is a frightening experience. Like you, I reached out to the Trust for support and we will be here for you to lean on for as long as you need.
Sending much love,
Karen x
The Ectopic Pregnancy Trust
Registered Charity Number: 1071811
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If we have been able to help you, are you able to help us with a small donation or by volunteering?
Further information is available at ectopic.org.uk
Email us: ept@ectopic.org.uk
We provide a call-back helpline service: 020 7733 2653
The latest EPT newsletter is out now! You can take a look at the Winter edition and subscribe to our mailing list here: https://mailchi.mp/986bdd6091ee/ectopic-matters
Detailed medical information can be found on our website. Please remember online medical information is NO SUBSTITUTE for expert medical advice from your own health care team
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Chicago123
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Re: Managing Emotions?
I am feeling the same. I've lost interest in my job and can't focus. I am irritable and feel my husband doesn't understand. I'm angry. I know it's not just hormones - it's the situation and stress of it all.LavaLamp2019 wrote:Hi all,
I wondered if anyone else is having difficulty in managing their emotions? I am finding myself becoming very angry very esily, which is really not like me... I dont know whether this is related to my recent ectopic or not? I am sure hormonally I am all over the plce, but I just find myself getting really angry at small things.
x
Re: Managing Emotions?
I had surgery 10 days ago and I just feel numb. I’m struggling to know how to feel to be honest. Thinking about going back to work on Thursday because I just feel so lost sitting in the house and thinking about things. I lost my left Fallopian tube and my left ovary as the consultant found a large cyst. Just want to get back to work and back to normal even though I know how cold that seems.
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EPT Host 20
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Re: Managing Emotions?
Dear Jo86,
I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy and loss,
We will all deal with our emotions differently and it is all still very early days for you.
Experiencing an ectopic pregnancy is a huge ordeal and you are in the early stages of recovery. Your body needs time to heal from your surgery which is in itself a gruelling task. You have also had to process the loss of your baby and been through an immense rollercoaster of emotions - all of this will take time to come to terms with.
You should take it very easily for about six weeks after surgery. Your body will be using its energies to heal internally. It is normal to feel physically and emotionally exhausted during this time and please do be kind to yourself. Recovery can take time and some days will be better than others, one day you maybe ok and the next you maybe in discomfort or more emotional. This is perfectly usual and the healing process will go back and forth in this way for however long you need. It is important to listen to your body's signals and pain and feeling tired are your body's signs to tell you to rest. We suggest keeping a healthy balanced diet, drinking lots of water and resting. Once your wounds have healed, very gentle exercise such as a short walk can help, but please do take this slowly.
If you feel you need to go back to work, that's ok if it is right for you. Just be aware of your emotions and how you are feeling physically and if you feel you need further time off or an amendment to your normal duties, please speak to your employer or GP.
Be kind to yourself, allow time to grieve, to heal both physically and emotionally,
Sending much love,
Karen x
The Ectopic Pregnancy Trust
Registered Charity Number: 1071811
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If we have been able to help you, are you able to help us with a small donation or by volunteering?
Further information is available at ectopic.org.uk
Email us: ept@ectopic.org.uk
We provide a call-back helpline service: 020 7733 2653
The latest EPT newsletter is out now! You can take a look at the Winter edition and subscribe to our mailing list here: https://mailchi.mp/986bdd6091ee/ectopic-matters
Detailed medical information can be found on our website. Please remember online medical information is NO SUBSTITUTE for expert medical advice from your own health care team
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I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy and loss,
We will all deal with our emotions differently and it is all still very early days for you.
Experiencing an ectopic pregnancy is a huge ordeal and you are in the early stages of recovery. Your body needs time to heal from your surgery which is in itself a gruelling task. You have also had to process the loss of your baby and been through an immense rollercoaster of emotions - all of this will take time to come to terms with.
You should take it very easily for about six weeks after surgery. Your body will be using its energies to heal internally. It is normal to feel physically and emotionally exhausted during this time and please do be kind to yourself. Recovery can take time and some days will be better than others, one day you maybe ok and the next you maybe in discomfort or more emotional. This is perfectly usual and the healing process will go back and forth in this way for however long you need. It is important to listen to your body's signals and pain and feeling tired are your body's signs to tell you to rest. We suggest keeping a healthy balanced diet, drinking lots of water and resting. Once your wounds have healed, very gentle exercise such as a short walk can help, but please do take this slowly.
If you feel you need to go back to work, that's ok if it is right for you. Just be aware of your emotions and how you are feeling physically and if you feel you need further time off or an amendment to your normal duties, please speak to your employer or GP.
Be kind to yourself, allow time to grieve, to heal both physically and emotionally,
Sending much love,
Karen x
The Ectopic Pregnancy Trust
Registered Charity Number: 1071811
**************************************************************************
If we have been able to help you, are you able to help us with a small donation or by volunteering?
Further information is available at ectopic.org.uk
Email us: ept@ectopic.org.uk
We provide a call-back helpline service: 020 7733 2653
The latest EPT newsletter is out now! You can take a look at the Winter edition and subscribe to our mailing list here: https://mailchi.mp/986bdd6091ee/ectopic-matters
Detailed medical information can be found on our website. Please remember online medical information is NO SUBSTITUTE for expert medical advice from your own health care team
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