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Am I ok?
Am I ok?
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Re: Am I ok?
Re: Am I ok?
I know what you mean. I can't think of it as a baby as it wasn't, there was no heartbeat yet, it was just potential. And maybe that's just my way of protecting myself but that's how I feel. I'm gutted I'm not pregnant any more but relieved it happened early, was treated quickly and I had very little pain and bleeding etc. I'm usually such an emotional person I guess I've just been surprised by my own reaction. Guess I'm just worried it'll all spill over or explode later if I've not dealt with it properly now. Thank for the reply. Hope you're doing ok x
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I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy and loss. You have had a lot to deal with recently, especially experiencing ectopic pregnancy whilst abroad. You are trying to come to terms with what has happened and you are definitely not a monster. We all deal with things in our own way. You do whatever you need to do to protect your heart and we will be here for you for as long as you need.
If you are considering trying to conceive again, can I gently remind you that with Methotrexate, you should wait until your hCG levels have fallen to below 5mIU/mL (your doctor will advise you when this is through blood tests) and then take a folic acid supplement for 12 weeks before you try to conceive. This is because the Methotrexate may have reduced the level of folate in your body which is needed to ensure a baby develops healthily. The Methotrexate is metabolised quickly but it can affect the quality of your cells, including those of your eggs and the quality of your blood for up to three months after it has been given. The medicine can also affect the way your liver works and so you need to give your body time to recover properly before a new pregnancy is considered. A shortage of folate could result in a greater chance of a baby having a neural tube defect such as hare lip, cleft palate, or even spina bifida or other NT defects. This is why the "wait" and then taking folic acid for 12 weeks before trying to conceive is so important.
The chances of a further ectopic after a first in UK is 10%. So that's 90% chance of the embryo being in right place next time.
While generally it is possible to conceive after an ectopic pregnancy, the amount of time it takes varies from couple to couple. Factors include age, general health, reproductive health and how often you have sex, among other things. It may be comforting to know that 65% of women are successfully pregnant within 18 months of experiencing an ectopic pregnancy and some studies suggest this rises to around 85% after two years.
At the moment, concentrate on you and doing whatever you need to get through this difficult time. I personally found the emotional impact hit after I had been discharged from the hospital, the business of blood tests etc, when I had time to stop and think about what had happened. It is perfectly normal and natural if you are coping with everything in your own way too, we cannot compare ourselves to others. Just know that we will be here for you if needed.
Sending much love,
Karen x
The Ectopic Pregnancy Trust
Registered Charity Number: 1071811
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