My first time ever being pregnant was in 2015 and I gave birth to a healthy baby boy, who I love and am so grateful for.
I was very scared to be a mother...I cried many days. I didn't think I could do it. In the beginning I even thought maybe the test was wrong. The fear was just intense probably up until i gave birth.
Fast forward to last Tuesday when I finally decided I had been bleeding lightly on and off for too long. For some reason I thought to take a pregnancy test and there it was... pregnant. I was so excited. I was SO happy. It was nothing like the first time where I was paralyzed by fear. There was just excitement.
But I knew the bleeding was weird so the next day I went to the ER with my husband to make sure everything was OK. Positive test again, hcg level at 18,000... no baby on the ultrasound. Vaginal ultrasound found my pregnancy in my right tube and by 8pm Wednesday night I was having surgery and my right tube was removed.
It was all so very quick and the OB assured me women go through this and go on to have healthy babies after tube removal but....idk, all there is now is doubt. and that feeling i had that i want back so badly.
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2nd pregnancy was ectopic
Re: 2nd pregnancy was ectopic
I no exactly how you feel! I told my husbund we was expecting our 2nd baby on our 1st wedding anniversary! We was both so excited then one night at work I had such bad pain then I callapsed was rushed into surgery and had to have a blood transufusion and left tubed removed Was so quick and scary and I'm lucky to be here really!
It took me a few months to recovery physically and mentally! But it does get easier and I still think about it everyday now but it defiantly helps to talk to my husband and friends when I need to! But I think I have my 4 year old and I'm so lucky to have him!
Hope your doing ok XX
It took me a few months to recovery physically and mentally! But it does get easier and I still think about it everyday now but it defiantly helps to talk to my husband and friends when I need to! But I think I have my 4 year old and I'm so lucky to have him!
Hope your doing ok XX
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Re: 2nd pregnancy was ectopic
Dear shboogies,
I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy and loss,
When we experience ectopic pregnancy we are suddenly faced with a life threatening emergency and it's treatment, reduction in fertility, concerns about the future and the loss of our babies. Experiencing any one of these is an ordeal, putting them together is immense and your feelings are completely normal.
It is normal to feel anxious about the future. We generally feel a mix of emotions from wanting to try again to being petrified of what may lie ahead. We never forget our babies, but we learn to accept what happened. It is a slow process that might be weeks or months ahead.
In time, we can get to a place where we feel comfortable trying again. When this is, is individual for each person. There is no timeframe for recovery, take each day as it comes.
Importantly early scans avail. As soon as you know you are pregnant, contact your local EPU to inform them and book in for an early scan at around six weeks. Remind them of your previous ectopic pregnancy. This self refer route is the best route in our view. Hopefully you will have some comfort to know you are under the radar of medical professionals right away.
The chances of a further ectopic after a first in UK is 10%. So that's 90% chance of the embryo being in right place next time.
While generally it is possible to conceive after an ectopic pregnancy, the amount of time it takes varies from couple to couple. Factors include age, general health, reproductive health and how often you have sex, among other things. It may be comforting to know that 65% of women are successfully pregnant within 18 months of experiencing an ectopic pregnancy and some studies suggest this rises to around 85% after two years.
Be kind to yourself, allow time to grieve and to heal both physically and emotionally.
Sending much love and warm hugs,
Karen x
The Ectopic Pregnancy Trust
Registered Charity Number: 1071811
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I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy and loss,
When we experience ectopic pregnancy we are suddenly faced with a life threatening emergency and it's treatment, reduction in fertility, concerns about the future and the loss of our babies. Experiencing any one of these is an ordeal, putting them together is immense and your feelings are completely normal.
It is normal to feel anxious about the future. We generally feel a mix of emotions from wanting to try again to being petrified of what may lie ahead. We never forget our babies, but we learn to accept what happened. It is a slow process that might be weeks or months ahead.
In time, we can get to a place where we feel comfortable trying again. When this is, is individual for each person. There is no timeframe for recovery, take each day as it comes.
Importantly early scans avail. As soon as you know you are pregnant, contact your local EPU to inform them and book in for an early scan at around six weeks. Remind them of your previous ectopic pregnancy. This self refer route is the best route in our view. Hopefully you will have some comfort to know you are under the radar of medical professionals right away.
The chances of a further ectopic after a first in UK is 10%. So that's 90% chance of the embryo being in right place next time.
While generally it is possible to conceive after an ectopic pregnancy, the amount of time it takes varies from couple to couple. Factors include age, general health, reproductive health and how often you have sex, among other things. It may be comforting to know that 65% of women are successfully pregnant within 18 months of experiencing an ectopic pregnancy and some studies suggest this rises to around 85% after two years.
Be kind to yourself, allow time to grieve and to heal both physically and emotionally.
Sending much love and warm hugs,
Karen x
The Ectopic Pregnancy Trust
Registered Charity Number: 1071811
**************************************************************************
If we have been able to help you, are you able to help us with a small donation or by volunteering?
Further information is available at ectopic.org.uk
Email us: ept@ectopic.org.uk
We provide a call-back helpline service: 020 7733 2653
The latest EPT newsletter is out now! You can take a look at the Winter edition and subscribe to our mailing list here: https://mailchi.mp/986bdd6091ee/ectopic-matters
Detailed medical information can be found on our website. Please remember online medical information is NO SUBSTITUTE for expert medical advice from your own health care team
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Re: 2nd pregnancy was ectopic
Hi
Sorry to hear about your ectopic sending lots of hugs xx
I had two ectopic pregnancies both with wait and see approach and it just dragged on for months, actually im still pregnant 2nd ectopic now i am going to ask for a surgery on friday as im fed up with waiting and doctor mentioned i have to go for laparoscopy anyway because of my 2 ectopics so why not do it now when im unwell!!
How was your hospital experience? With my first one i was given a two page booklet on ectopic pregnancy, no questions were answered no follow up unless i asked for it and here i am again with the same issue why cant nhs investigate issues straight away why put me through this again. Ahhhh so upset
Sorry to hear about your ectopic sending lots of hugs xx
I had two ectopic pregnancies both with wait and see approach and it just dragged on for months, actually im still pregnant 2nd ectopic now i am going to ask for a surgery on friday as im fed up with waiting and doctor mentioned i have to go for laparoscopy anyway because of my 2 ectopics so why not do it now when im unwell!!
How was your hospital experience? With my first one i was given a two page booklet on ectopic pregnancy, no questions were answered no follow up unless i asked for it and here i am again with the same issue why cant nhs investigate issues straight away why put me through this again. Ahhhh so upset
