Today is very hard day and feel like there is no one who to speak. I have been crying non stop and can't get myself together.
It has been 5 month now since my second ectopic pregnancy. The first one happened back in 2011 in my left tube. I had operation to remove ectopic pregnancy, but tube was saved.
Fast forward, I met my husband 6 years ago and we actively started to try for baby in December 2015. At exact time of beginning to try, I also started to experience spotting mid cycle. So we went to GP and I was referred to loads of tests and examinations. After year of unsuccessful trying we were diagnosed with unexplained fertility and put on waiting list for government funded IFV treatment. During this time I was still going to doctor to find cause of my spotting but nothing was found.
In September 2018 I finely fell pregnant, but during 6 week scan, there was nothing found in womb. After couple scans and blood tested doctor finely found ectopic in my right tube. I was treated with two rounds of methotrexate. We were completely heartbroken and devastated that after such a long trying it ended up in loss of our baby.
At the same time when I was going through my first and second methotrexate treatment, my manager at work decided to denounce me at work, because she found out that I have been trying for baby. I gave my resignation in to save my embarrassment and also because I was very emotional and did want any of my coworkers to find out why I was denounced. I felt so embarrassed.
Our appointment to start IFV was in February this year. During this visit we found out that we have lost option of government's paid IVF treatment and have to wait again 3 years. Also doctor confused to proceed with any further investigation regarding my spotting. He told us that earliest that they will see us is after one year in February 2020. When I raised my concern that I might be left with both tubes not working, he answered that we should go home and try for year and not worry. Only after one year we will be able to do any tests or investigations to see how right tube is working.
I feel so devastated at the moment, because we do not know what is happening and have to wait so long. I started to spot again and not falling pregnant for two cycles now. I am still out of work and struggling to save money for private IVF treatment which is our only option at the moment. We have lost 3 years already and might need to wait more till we can start any treatment again.
Has anyone else experienced this kind of attitude from their doctor? Should I try to go private and find out what is now happening with my right tube? I am so scared that we will be trying for another year and will find out in the end that non of my tubes are actually working after two ectopic pregnancies.
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Life after EP
Re: Life after EP
baibab wrote:Today is very hard day and feel like there is no one who to speak. I have been crying non stop and can't get myself together.
It has been 5 month now since my second ectopic pregnancy. The first one happened back in 2011 in my left tube. I had operation to remove ectopic pregnancy, but tube was saved.
Fast forward, I met my husband 6 years ago and we actively started to try for baby in December 2015. At exact time of beginning to try, I also started to experience spotting mid cycle. So we went to GP and I was referred to loads of tests and examinations. After year of unsuccessful trying we were diagnosed with unexplained fertility and put on waiting list for government funded IFV treatment. During this time I was still going to doctor to find cause of my spotting but nothing was found.
In September 2018 I finely fell pregnant, but during 6 week scan, there was nothing found in womb. After couple scans and blood tested doctor finely found ectopic in my right tube. I was treated with two rounds of methotrexate. We were completely heartbroken and devastated that after such a long trying it ended up in loss of our baby.
At the same time when I was going through my first and second methotrexate treatment, my manager at work decided to denounce me at work, because she found out that I have been trying for baby. I gave my resignation in to save my embarrassment and also because I was very emotional and did want any of my coworkers to find out why I was denounced. I felt so embarrassed.
Our appointment to start IFV was in February this year. During this visit we found out that we have lost option of government's paid IVF treatment and have to wait again 3 years. Also doctor confused to proceed with any further investigation regarding my spotting. He told us that earliest that they will see us is after one year in February 2020. When I raised my concern that I might be left with both tubes not working, he answered that we should go home and try for year and not worry. Only after one year we will be able to do any tests or investigations to see how right tube is working.
I feel so devastated at the moment, because we do not know what is happening and have to wait so long. I started to spot again and not falling pregnant for two cycles now. I am still out of work and struggling to save money for private IVF treatment which is our only option at the moment. We have lost 3 years already and might need to wait more till we can start any treatment again.
Has anyone else experienced this kind of attitude from their doctor? Should I try to go private and find out what is now happening with my right tube? I am so scared that we will be trying for another year and will find out in the end that non of my tubes are actually working after two ectopic pregnancies.
Re: Life after EP
baibab wrote:Today is very hard day and feel like there is no one who to speak. I have been crying non stop and can't get myself together.
It has been 5 month now since my second ectopic pregnancy. The first one happened back in 2011 in my left tube. I had operation to remove ectopic pregnancy, but tube was saved.
Fast forward, I met my husband 6 years ago and we actively started to try for baby in December 2015. At exact time of beginning to try, I also started to experience spotting mid cycle. So we went to GP and I was referred to loads of tests and examinations. After year of unsuccessful trying we were diagnosed with unexplained fertility and put on waiting list for government funded IFV treatment. During this time I was still going to doctor to find cause of my spotting but nothing was found.
In September 2018 I finely fell pregnant, but during 6 week scan, there was nothing found in womb. After couple scans and blood tested doctor finely found ectopic in my right tube. I was treated with two rounds of methotrexate. We were completely heartbroken and devastated that after such a long trying it ended up in loss of our baby.
At the same time when I was going through my first and second methotrexate treatment, my manager at work decided to denounce me at work, because she found out that I have been trying for baby. I gave my resignation in to save my embarrassment and also because I was very emotional and did want any of my coworkers to find out why I was denounced. I felt so embarrassed.
Our appointment to start IFV was in February this year. During this visit we found out that we have lost option of government's paid IVF treatment and have to wait again 3 years. Also doctor confused to proceed with any further investigation regarding my spotting. He told us that earliest that they will see us is after one year in February 2020. When I raised my concern that I might be left with both tubes not working, he answered that we should go home and try for year and not worry. Only after one year we will be able to do any tests or investigations to see how right tube is working.
I feel so devastated at the moment, because we do not know what is happening and have to wait so long. I started to spot again and not falling pregnant for two cycles now. I am still out of work and struggling to save money for private IVF treatment which is our only option at the moment. We have lost 3 years already and might need to wait more till we can start any treatment again.
Has anyone else experienced this kind of attitude from their doctor? Should I try to go private and find out what is now happening with my right tube? I am so scared that we will be trying for another year and will find out in the end that non of my tubes are actually working after two ectopic pregnancies.
Hi Baibab,
Sorry to hear about your losses. I know too well how it feel to be TTC for a long time and to only have your hope of a baby to be taken away from you.
I'm going to send you a private email xx
Re: Life after EP
I emailed you last night. It's been sent to your personal email xxbaibab wrote:Thank you Kitty2016!!
