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I know this is nothing new
I know this is nothing new
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Re: I know this is nothing new
I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy and loss, especially after undergoing IVF.
When we experience ectopic pregnancy, we are suddenly faced with a life threatening emergency and it's treatment, reduction in fertility, concerns about the future and the loss of our babies. Experiencing any one of these is an ordeal putting them together is immense and your feelings are honestly completely normal.
You should take it very easily for about six weeks after surgery. Your body will be using its energies to heal internally. It is normal to feel physically and emotionally exhausted during this time and please do be kind to yourself. Recovery can take time and some days will be better than others, one day you maybe ok and the next you maybe in discomfort or more emotional. This is perfectly usual and the healing process will go back and forth in this way for however long you need. It is important to listen to your body's signals and pain and feeling tired are your body's signs to tell you to rest. We suggest keeping a healthy balanced diet, drinking lots of water and resting. Once your wounds have healed, very gentle exercise such as a short walk can help, but please do take this slowly.
You are experiencing an immense rollercoaster of emotions, so please be kind to yourself. Allow time to grieve, to heal both physically and emotionally.
We will be here for you for as long as you need.
Sending much love and warm hugs,
Karen x
The Ectopic Pregnancy Trust
Registered Charity Number: 1071811
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Re: I know this is nothing new
I know exactly how you feel. I had emergency surgery 5 weeks ago after I had a ruptured ectopic. I was bleeding internally for 7 hours and then lost my right tube. I was only 5 weeks pregnant but I am heartbroken.
I feel so angry that my body has let me down. I feel like it’s so unfair as I did everything right. Didn’t drink, have never smoked, took all the right vitamins, I’m a healthy weight, 29 years old, healthy eater etc etc. All around me, everyone else seems to be getting pregnant (smokers, drinkers, overweight women, older women) and going on to have healthy pregnancies and my baby didn’t get to live beyond 35 days. I’m so angry and I feel awful that I feel that way.
I should be 10 weeks and 3 days now and we can’t try again until June. During my surgery they found that I have extensive endometriosis which I have thankfully never had any symptoms of but now knowing that and having only one tube, our likelyhood of having a family is looking slim.
All I have of my baby is a photo of one of my positive tests (I took about 10 tests just because I loved seeing the lines and knowing my baby was safe and snuggly growing in there). Oh and I have the three scars from where my baby was taken away.
Time is a healer and some days I feel strong and positive and then other days are so dark. I went back to work this week after 5 weeks off. I was signed off for 6 but there is only so much sitting and thinking you can do.
One day, I hope you and I will hold our future healthy babies in our arms and hug them even tighter because of what we’ve been through x
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Re: I know this is nothing new
I am sorry for the difficult time you have been through and that you've experienced an ectopic pregnancy.
Women often feel frustrated with their bodies after the ordeal of ectopic pregnancy. No matter what the surrounding circumstances, it is not your fault.
Hearing about other people's pregnancies can be a stark reminder of what should have been, and it is normal to feel angry.
No woman should have to go through this horrendous ordeal, and our hearts go out to you and everyone affected by this condition.
With good wishes,
Michele
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Re: I know this is nothing new
Sorry for all that’s happened. I can totally sympathise. It’s so unfair. We had 5 rounds ivf and only the one pregnancy. Then the ectopic. Now minus a tube and less chance than ever.
Totally get your anger but l just feel defeated. It is so unfair x
Re: I know this is nothing new
I really hope that we all get our babies one day. I know I won’t ever give up.
Sending you a big hug xx