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My friend is pregnant
My friend is pregnant
Last night one of my best friends let me know shes pregnant, she was nervous to tell me after what I've been through but really wanted me to be one of the first to know and knew I would be happy for her.
I am so happy for her (and obviously let her know that) but at the same time it was so hard to hear and I thought it would be easier than that . To know that had I had a successful pregnancy that we would have been doing this together (she would be around 3 weeks behind me) and that our children could have grown up together breaks my heart. She has said the same and said she was nervous when she got her news as it was only a week after id had surgery so she was cautious of potentially having a similar situation. I want to be there for her and watch her little one grow, but its going to be so so hard and understandably I'm going to feel sad thinking, that could have been me.
I wasnt going to use these forums myself (although I have been reading them as they do help) but I feel like I should now. I'm not as healed mentally as I thought I was. I had so little time to process I was pregnant before having it all ripped away from me (4/5 days). This is so hard.
Re: My friend is pregnant
Re: My friend is pregnant
As the months passed and I began to come to terms with the loss of my own pregnancy it did get easier, and I started to feel the sort of joy for my friend that I should have felt at her initial announcement. I think that perhaps you're still in a phase of shock and maybe some anger that this awful thing has happened to you. I've been having counselling to try and help me cope with some of my emotions and I told my friend about how I was struggling too, this might be something to consider.
I found out last week that I am pregnant again and the first person I told (aside from my partner!) was my pregnant friend. Please try and stay positive because it does get easier eventually xx
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Re: My friend is pregnant
We hear from many women who struggle with news about pregnancy from their friends and families. This is very normal and I was the same after my loss. When I had my ectopic pregnancy I had to attend a family function and a close family member was heavily pregnant. I spent the whole day and evening avoiding her as I found it too hard to be near her. It's what I needed to do to get through the day and have some space and please protect your heart in whatever way you need. This does not make us "bad" people and it is possible to be happy for those around us while grieving for our own loss. Pregnancies and babies can be a very stark reminder of what could have been and it can be painful. Please do be gentle with yourself and you can talk to us whenever you need,
Sending much love and warm hugs,
Karen x
The Ectopic Pregnancy Trust
Registered Charity Number: 1071811
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Re: My friend is pregnant
Congratulations on your pregnancy, thank you for sharing the news and giving hope to so many,
sending warm hugs and positive thoughts,
Karen x
The Ectopic Pregnancy Trust
Registered Charity Number: 1071811
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