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Feeling of guilt
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Feeling of guilt
Has anyone felt guilty about having their ectopic? Over the last few days iv been feeling guilt and am on the verge of wanting to end things with my partner based on how I'm feeling and what has happened and I'm questioning myself things such as Why would someone stay with me after going through an ectopic and only having one tube? The fact that my chances to become pregnant again have dropped slightly it does worry me and put alot of thoughts into my head.
Iv only realised that what has happened has just sunk in and I get that these feelings may be expected its just how do I deal with them? I don't feel like I can speak to people as I don't think they'd understand, Iv been thinking about talking to my partner about how I am feeling but I'm not sure he'll take it very well!
Has anyone else experienced this? How did you overcome it? Or what did you do to help with how you're feeling?
Re: Feeling of guilt
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Re: Feeling of guilt
I just had an ectopic pregnancy 2 weeks ago today so not an expert in how you can expect to feel but just wanted to say please don't feel guilty. I also felt guilt and I spoke to my husband and he told me not to be daft, would I blame someone for being sick? And of course not, I know I can say but my body caused it but none of us are in control of our body actually doing this, just like people can't control getting sick. Hopefully you both can have children again but whatever lies ahead if the issue was with your partner would you want to leave them or try every way possible to have a child together? We have all been through a terrible thing and who knows what the future holds but please talk to your partner's they should want to support you, and don't blame yourselves, what you are going through is bad enough without feeling guilt. I hope we all feel as better as we can soon!
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Thank you for your message , I ended up speaking with my partner and he very much comforted me and told me I was being silly and just said that he wasn’t going to leave me which made me feel better!
But at the moment I’m very much no children but that could all change in the future with a bit of healing time
Re: Feeling of guilt
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Re: Feeling of guilt
Thank you for your words hope things goes well for you x