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Struggling
Struggling
I just needed to post this morning as have been really struggling lately. I had emergency surgery for ectopic pregnancy 2 months ago, as well as a miscarriage in January. The due date for my first baby would’ve been 10 July and ever since then I’ve struggled not to just think about how things should’ve been. And I feel that 2 months on from the ectopic most people expect me to be back to normal but I’m not and I feel I’ve just hit a wall and can’t keep putting on a brave face. I’m still waiting to get counselling which I hope will help. I don’t want to see a lot of my friends as they have babies / are pregnant. And I just want to hide away in bed a lot of the time. Reading this forum has been a big help as it makes me feel less alone. If anyone has any advice on how to cope then that would be very much appreciated Xxxx
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I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy and loss,
We hear from many women who struggle with news about pregnancy from their friends and families. This is very normal and I was the same after my loss. When I had my ectopic pregnancy I had to attend a family function and a close family member was heavily pregnant. I spent the whole day and evening avoiding her as I found it too hard to be near her. It's what I needed to do to get through the day and have some space and please protect your heart in whatever way you need. This does not make us "bad" people and it is possible to be happy for those around us while grieving for our own loss. Pregnancies and babies can be a very stark reminder of what could have been and it can be painful. Please do be gentle with yourself and you can talk to us whenever you need.
Sending much love and warm hugs,
Karen x
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Thank you for your reply Karen, the support from this forum has been great.
Zay I'm so sorry you're going through something similar. I wish I had the answers as to how to get through this but hoping you're feeling a bit better today.
xxx