At the end of December 2018 I was diagnosed with an Ectopic pregnancy and had surgery to remove my right tube. It was my first pregnancy and my husband and were already so excited in the three short weeks I was pregnant.
I spent about 6 months in therapy to help me recover emotionally and I managed to get myself a place where I was finally able to be happy again. We are also excited to be expecting our rainbow baby in Jan.
With my due date for the ectopic pregnancy coming up next week I find I'm really struggling with the loss again and barely managing to get out of bed in the morning. The due date also coincides with my parents in-law's wedding anniversary and my niece's birthday, and I'm so worried about being around all the celebrations without being absolutely miserable.
I would love to hear how other people dealt with the due date, especially in the first year. Or if anyone has an idea for something special I can do with my husband to remember and honor our baby?
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Struggling with due date
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Re: Struggling with due date
Dear shoshanaj,
I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy and loss,
Anniversaries and meaningful dates can be especially difficult, please be kind to yourself and don't put to much pressure on yourself. Perhaps speak to your parents in law and nieces parents in advance so that if you need a little you time, they understand.
Personally I buy myself the most beautiful bunch of flowers I can find every year to remember my baby, I know of others that have planted trees.
Take time for you, and do whatever is needed to do to get through the day and have some space. Please protect your heart in whatever way you need. This does not make us "bad" people and it is possible to be happy for those around us while grieving for our own loss.
Congratulations on your rainbow baby also.
Sending much love and warm hugs,
Karen x
The Ectopic Pregnancy Trust
Registered Charity Number: 1071811
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I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy and loss,
Anniversaries and meaningful dates can be especially difficult, please be kind to yourself and don't put to much pressure on yourself. Perhaps speak to your parents in law and nieces parents in advance so that if you need a little you time, they understand.
Personally I buy myself the most beautiful bunch of flowers I can find every year to remember my baby, I know of others that have planted trees.
Take time for you, and do whatever is needed to do to get through the day and have some space. Please protect your heart in whatever way you need. This does not make us "bad" people and it is possible to be happy for those around us while grieving for our own loss.
Congratulations on your rainbow baby also.
Sending much love and warm hugs,
Karen x
The Ectopic Pregnancy Trust
Registered Charity Number: 1071811
**************************************************************************
If we have been able to help you, are you able to help us with a small donation or by volunteering or fundraising?
Further information is available at ectopic.org.uk
Email us: ept@ectopic.org.uk
We provide a call-back helpline service: 020 7733 2653
The latest EPT newsletter is out now! You can take a look at the Winter edition and subscribe to our mailing list here: https://mailchi.mp/986bdd6091ee/ectopic-matters
Detailed medical information can be found on our website. Please remember online medical information is NO SUBSTITUTE for expert medical advice from your own health care team
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