Hi,
I’m 13 weeks pre op and am in quite a physical job, after a long time of being on the go and strenuous work I’m finding I’m having pain where they’ve taken my tube? Is this normal?
Also I’m getting quite bad cramps which has never happened before and just wondering if this again is normal?
Iv also haven’t gone through the emotions yet and have just found out my little sister is pregnant and just want to cry but I can’t talk about the eptopic without wanting to break down.
Any advice would be so appreciated.
Thank you
Nicole x
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Some advice
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Re: Some advice
Dear Nicole,
I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy and loss,
If you are getting pains when you are completing physical aspects of your job, is there any way you can speak to your bosses or HR department about reducing the physical intensity of your job.
We hear from many women who struggle with news about pregnancy from their friends and families. This is very normal and I was the same after my loss. When I had my ectopic pregnancy I had to attend a family function and a close family member was heavily pregnant. I spent the whole day and evening avoiding her as I found it too hard to be near her. It's what I needed to do to get through the day and have some space and please protect your heart in whatever way you need. This does not make us "bad" people and it is possible to be happy for those around us while grieving for our own loss. Pregnancies and babies can be a very stark reminder of what could have been and it can be painful. Please do be gentle with yourself and you can talk to us whenever you need.
There is no hard and fast rule about how we cope with the loss of our babies and how we process the shock of ectopic pregnancy. Many women experience feelings of isolation after an ectopic pregnancy - I did, too. It is a frightening experience. Like you, I reached out to the Trust for support. These boards are a safe space to share, ask questions, or to vent. They are filled with people who have been through similar experiences and journeys, and we are here for you for as long as you need.
We at the Trust believe that talking through what happened and your emotions as and when you can helps the healing process. We operate a helpline service and there's no pressure whatsoever but if you would ever like the opportunity to speak over the phone to someone who has been through a similar experience, do feel free to call, details are below. We can take things at your pace entirely and you are free to ask any questions that are on your mind. You can talk about the ordeal you have been through and express your feelings to vent and let off some steam. We can exchange emails too, if you prefer that route. We'll simply be here for you, however you wish and for as long as you wish.
Sending much love and warm hugs,
Karen x
The Ectopic Pregnancy Trust
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I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy and loss,
If you are getting pains when you are completing physical aspects of your job, is there any way you can speak to your bosses or HR department about reducing the physical intensity of your job.
We hear from many women who struggle with news about pregnancy from their friends and families. This is very normal and I was the same after my loss. When I had my ectopic pregnancy I had to attend a family function and a close family member was heavily pregnant. I spent the whole day and evening avoiding her as I found it too hard to be near her. It's what I needed to do to get through the day and have some space and please protect your heart in whatever way you need. This does not make us "bad" people and it is possible to be happy for those around us while grieving for our own loss. Pregnancies and babies can be a very stark reminder of what could have been and it can be painful. Please do be gentle with yourself and you can talk to us whenever you need.
There is no hard and fast rule about how we cope with the loss of our babies and how we process the shock of ectopic pregnancy. Many women experience feelings of isolation after an ectopic pregnancy - I did, too. It is a frightening experience. Like you, I reached out to the Trust for support. These boards are a safe space to share, ask questions, or to vent. They are filled with people who have been through similar experiences and journeys, and we are here for you for as long as you need.
We at the Trust believe that talking through what happened and your emotions as and when you can helps the healing process. We operate a helpline service and there's no pressure whatsoever but if you would ever like the opportunity to speak over the phone to someone who has been through a similar experience, do feel free to call, details are below. We can take things at your pace entirely and you are free to ask any questions that are on your mind. You can talk about the ordeal you have been through and express your feelings to vent and let off some steam. We can exchange emails too, if you prefer that route. We'll simply be here for you, however you wish and for as long as you wish.
Sending much love and warm hugs,
Karen x
The Ectopic Pregnancy Trust
Registered Charity Number: 1071811
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If we have been able to help you, are you able to help us with a small donation or by volunteering or fundraising?
Further information is available at ectopic.org.uk
Email us: ept@ectopic.org.uk
We provide a call-back helpline service: 020 7733 2653
The latest EPT newsletter is out now! You can take a look at the Winter edition and subscribe to our mailing list here: https://mailchi.mp/986bdd6091ee/ectopic-matters
Detailed medical information can be found on our website. Please remember online medical information is NO SUBSTITUTE for expert medical advice from your own health care team
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Re: Some advice
Hi Karen,
Thank you so much for your reply at the moment I’m just avoiding my little sister and any topic around her news, I will talk to my HR team at work and see what they can do, I think when I’m ready I will be in contact with the trust so that I can talk through everything and just be able to let some of the feelings and emotions go.
Nicole x
Thank you so much for your reply at the moment I’m just avoiding my little sister and any topic around her news, I will talk to my HR team at work and see what they can do, I think when I’m ready I will be in contact with the trust so that I can talk through everything and just be able to let some of the feelings and emotions go.
Nicole x
