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Fertility treatment and an ectopic
Fertility treatment and an ectopic
My partner and I have been trying to conceive for about 3 years, I have PCOS and managed to conceive on my fourth cycle of Clomid (medication to force me to ovulate). I had normal pregnancy symptoms until about week 8 when I started having some dark brown spotting, no one was concerned (except me) as it was brown, and the midwife recommended I rest. After this carried on for a few more days I rang again, and this time was booked in for a scan the next day, just to check. The scan found no signs of pregnancy, and I was sent for bloods immediately to check my HCG levels, which were extremely high. As I'd done quite a bit of reading, I was very worried as this obviously appeared to be an ectopic pregnancy - when the hospital gave me the bloods results they recommended I wait until the next day and then make some phone calls, but after some insistence, agreed to admit me. The next day I was scheduled for a laparoscopy, about 3 hours before my surgery I began to have excruciating pains and blacked out whenever I tried to sit/stand. They started the laparoscopy, but found that my left tube had ruptured and due to the amount of bleeding (I had to be given a transfusion) and adhesions, they had to then do a full laparotomy. This was just over three weeks ago. I'm trying my best to feel physically better again, I'm walking daily but am scared of pushing myself. My scars are healing well but I still have some pain. I wasn't really given any recovery advice on leaving hospital but have tried to find it online. I'm also following a Headspace mindfulness course on Grief. Sometimes I feel normal and sometimes I just feel so sad. Not sure why I'm writing all this really, I suppose I just wanted to tell my story to people who have gone through the same thing. I've heard that Clomid increases chances of an ectopic and am now even more scared about my future chances of conceiving. Going through fertility treatment was difficult and now with this on top I'm not sure what to do.
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Re: Fertility treatment and an ectopic
Hi Madigan,
Thank you for sharing your story with us. I'm so very sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy and loss. It can be a very confusing time and brings up so many emotions which we may not have expected. You have suffered physical and emotional trauma, and right now, it is so important to look after yourself. There is no standard recovery process, as each of us is unique, however as you've read these boards are full of men and women who understand the challenges of ectopic pregnancies.
It's important to remember that there is nothing you did to cause or could have done to stop an ectopic pregnancy. Right now, the most important thing to do is to look after yourself. There is no set recovery or set timeframe for recovery. As every woman is unique, we all process it in different ways. Some days are better and some days are harder. Over time, the initial feelings may fade, but we don't forget. It's important to take the next steps in your own time. Your well-being is the most important thing right now.
I found that journaling was a way for me to get my thoughts onto paper, helping me to make sense of my emotions and to share them with friends and family. The Trust also believes that talking therapies can be of great help. You may want to speak to your GP for a referral and a look into counselling or to contact your local Mind centres. We can also arrange for you to speak to someone on our helpline at the number below. Many find it of comfort to speak to someone who has been through the same thing and we can support you alongside the counselling. You will also find more information for support on our website: http://www.ectopic.org.uk/patients/emotional-impact/
Please know that these boards are here for you, any time, to share or to vent for as long as you need.
With good wishes,
Michele
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Thank you for sharing your story with us. I'm so very sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy and loss. It can be a very confusing time and brings up so many emotions which we may not have expected. You have suffered physical and emotional trauma, and right now, it is so important to look after yourself. There is no standard recovery process, as each of us is unique, however as you've read these boards are full of men and women who understand the challenges of ectopic pregnancies.
It's important to remember that there is nothing you did to cause or could have done to stop an ectopic pregnancy. Right now, the most important thing to do is to look after yourself. There is no set recovery or set timeframe for recovery. As every woman is unique, we all process it in different ways. Some days are better and some days are harder. Over time, the initial feelings may fade, but we don't forget. It's important to take the next steps in your own time. Your well-being is the most important thing right now.
I found that journaling was a way for me to get my thoughts onto paper, helping me to make sense of my emotions and to share them with friends and family. The Trust also believes that talking therapies can be of great help. You may want to speak to your GP for a referral and a look into counselling or to contact your local Mind centres. We can also arrange for you to speak to someone on our helpline at the number below. Many find it of comfort to speak to someone who has been through the same thing and we can support you alongside the counselling. You will also find more information for support on our website: http://www.ectopic.org.uk/patients/emotional-impact/
Please know that these boards are here for you, any time, to share or to vent for as long as you need.
With good wishes,
Michele
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If we have been able to help you, are you able to help us with a small donation, fundraising, or by volunteering?
Further information is available at http://www.ectopic.org.uk
Email us at ept@ectopic.org.uk.
Our helpline is 020 7733 2653 (available Monday to Friday 10am - 4pm).
Detailed medical information can be found on our website. Please remember online medical information is NO SUBSTITUTE for expert medical advice from your own health care team.
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