Hello all. I am 2 days post surgery from an ectopic pregnancy at 7 weeks 2 days. It all happened so quickly. Here's a little back story.
My husband and I had been trying for 16 cycles. Finally got a positive on oct 4th. We were over the moon. This past Saturday I had bad cramps that lasted about 10 minutes then turned into back spasms that spread across my ribs, went to urgent care they did a portable ultrasound and they showed me the baby and a little heart beat. And she scheduled me for another ultrasound so I could see better and get pictures and said everything seemed fine I probably had pregnancy constipation..
Flash forward to Thursday I go in for my ultrasound and I knew something was wrong because they wouldnt let me see, I was then moved to another room to wait for a doctor, they doctor came in and said what was happening was that I was having an ectopic pregnancy on the right side and my tube ruptured and I had internal bleeding.. and next thing I knew they were having me sign consent forms and preping me for surgery.. because of Covid I was all alone and scared. They said that it had been leaking since they assume Saturday and that's what the pain was, I had over 1.5 litres of blood in my stomach and they removed the right tube. I ended up having to stay a bit longer because after surgery I needed to stay on oxygen and they said I needed a blood transfusion because of all the blood loss, but they gave me an iron IV drip instead...
I'm just feeling so many different things it happened so quickly i just thought I was going in for an ultrasound and next thing I know the baby we tried so hard for is being taken away and I feel like it's my fault somehow, that my body couldn't keep our baby safe, I feel guilty and just so sad... my husband has been great but he is struggling too, trying to be strong for me and take care of me... I just want him to know that his feelings are valid too...
I woke up last night with an awful nightmare about my surgery only the doctors were telling me how awful of a mother I was that I couldn't save my baby so I woke up and just cried...
I'm in so much pain physically and emotionally I just dont know how to handle it... I'm sorry this is long if you read this far thank you, it helped a bit to type these things out.
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2 days post surgery. Not okay, will it get easier?
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TubelessWonder
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Re: 2 days post surgery. Not okay, will it get easier?
I'm so sorry you're going through this. I also had a ruptured ectopic and emergency surgery with right tube removed. I felt very similar just after surgery. I'm now just over a month past it and I do feel so much better. Its up and down and obviously I'm still devastated but I've let go of feeling guilty and am feeling more hopeful for the future. Take the time you need to grieve and allow yourself to feel anything you feel. Your hormones will be all over the place and it is such a horrific thing to go through but it will get better xx
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Re: 2 days post surgery. Not okay, will it get easier?
Dear Diask,
I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy and loss,
Experiencing an ectopic pregnancy is a huge ordeal and you are in the early stages of recovery. Your body needs time to heal from your surgery which is in itself a gruelling task. You have also had to process the loss of your baby and been through an immense rollercoaster of emotions - all of this will take time to come to terms with.
You should take it very easily for about six weeks after surgery. Your body will be using its energies to heal internally. It is normal to feel physically and emotionally exhausted during this time and please do be kind to yourself. Recovery can take time and some days will be better than others, one day you maybe ok and the next you maybe in discomfort or more emotional. This is perfectly usual and the healing process will go back and forth in this way for however long you need. It is important to listen to your body's signals and pain and feeling tired are your body's signs to tell you to rest. We suggest keeping a healthy balanced diet, drinking lots of water and resting. Once your wounds have healed, very gentle exercise such as a short walk can help, but please do take this slowly.
I know that when I had my ectopic pregnancy I also looked for a reason and almost automatically we tend to blame ourselves. From the bottom of my heart, there is nothing you could have done to prevent the ectopic pregnancy from happening. I cannot emphasise enough - you are not to blame.
Please be kind to yourself, allow time to grieve to heal both physically and emotionally,
sending much love and gentle hugs.
Karen x
The Ectopic Pregnancy Trust
Registered Charity Number: 1071811
Ectopic pregnancy patient information suite: Highly Commended in the 2019 BMA Patient Information Awards
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During the coronavirus outbreak, The EPT team is still working hard to provide crucial information and support to women and families experiencing ectopic pregnancy as quickly and efficiently as we can.
If we have been able to help you, are you able to help us with a small donation or by volunteering or fundraising?
Further information is available at ectopic.org.uk
Email us: ept@ectopic.org.uk
We provide a call-back helpline service: 020 7733 2653
Take a look at our newsletters and subscribe to our mailing list here: https://mailchi.mp/986bdd6091ee/ectopic-matters
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I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy and loss,
Experiencing an ectopic pregnancy is a huge ordeal and you are in the early stages of recovery. Your body needs time to heal from your surgery which is in itself a gruelling task. You have also had to process the loss of your baby and been through an immense rollercoaster of emotions - all of this will take time to come to terms with.
You should take it very easily for about six weeks after surgery. Your body will be using its energies to heal internally. It is normal to feel physically and emotionally exhausted during this time and please do be kind to yourself. Recovery can take time and some days will be better than others, one day you maybe ok and the next you maybe in discomfort or more emotional. This is perfectly usual and the healing process will go back and forth in this way for however long you need. It is important to listen to your body's signals and pain and feeling tired are your body's signs to tell you to rest. We suggest keeping a healthy balanced diet, drinking lots of water and resting. Once your wounds have healed, very gentle exercise such as a short walk can help, but please do take this slowly.
I know that when I had my ectopic pregnancy I also looked for a reason and almost automatically we tend to blame ourselves. From the bottom of my heart, there is nothing you could have done to prevent the ectopic pregnancy from happening. I cannot emphasise enough - you are not to blame.
Please be kind to yourself, allow time to grieve to heal both physically and emotionally,
sending much love and gentle hugs.
Karen x
The Ectopic Pregnancy Trust
Registered Charity Number: 1071811
Ectopic pregnancy patient information suite: Highly Commended in the 2019 BMA Patient Information Awards
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During the coronavirus outbreak, The EPT team is still working hard to provide crucial information and support to women and families experiencing ectopic pregnancy as quickly and efficiently as we can.
If we have been able to help you, are you able to help us with a small donation or by volunteering or fundraising?
Further information is available at ectopic.org.uk
Email us: ept@ectopic.org.uk
We provide a call-back helpline service: 020 7733 2653
Take a look at our newsletters and subscribe to our mailing list here: https://mailchi.mp/986bdd6091ee/ectopic-matters
Detailed medical information can be found on our website. Please remember online medical information is NO SUBSTITUTE for expert medical advice from your own health care team
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