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Life after Ectopic

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c0000ps
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Life after Ectopic

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Hey all, I'm new to this. I haven't had the strength to actually ask questions or speak to anyone until now.

I had an ectopic pregnancy, January 2018 that ended with a tube removal.
The experience destroyed me.

In my past I had had an abortion in my teens that went wrong and resulted in surgery.

I also had an appendix burst when I was a child.

I think now the adhesions potentially from these experiences contributed to my ectopic. Although I'm not sure?

Before this I had regular periods with barley any PM's symptoms. Since the ectopic I have been agony each month and am so irregular.

All I ever wanted was a child. And I have been trying since for almost 2 years.

What advice or hope do you all have because I'm starting to lose it.

Beth duffin
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Re: Life after Ectopic

Post by Beth duffin »

Sorry for your loss, iv had 2 ectopic pregnancy and my last one ended up with me in emergency surgery on Sunday last week with losing my last remaining tube. I had a ectopic pregnancy back in February last year and took my just under 2 years. Dont give up just keep trying. Have you been to see doctor about you cycle being irregular? X

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Re: Life after Ectopic

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Dear c0000ps,
I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy and loss,
Yes there are factors which increase our risk of ectopic pregnancy, however there are many women who have no risk factors and still sadly experience ectopic pregnancy.
I know that when I had my ectopic pregnancy I also looked for a reason and almost automatically we tend to blame ourselves. From the bottom of my heart, there is nothing you could have done to prevent the ectopic pregnancy from happening. I cannot emphasise enough - you are not to blame, please be kind to yourself.

The chances of a further ectopic after a first in UK is 10%. So that's 90% chance of the embryo being in right place next time.
While generally it is possible to conceive after an ectopic pregnancy, the amount of time it takes varies from couple to couple. Factors include age, general health, reproductive health and how often you have sex, among other things. It may be comforting to know that 65% of women are successfully pregnant within 18 months of experiencing an ectopic pregnancy and some studies suggest this rises to around 85% after two years.
Importantly, help is available if conceiving naturally has not yet been successful after some time trying - and the EPT advises that women under 35 should seek medical advice following 12 months trying to conceive and those over 35 should seek advice after 6 months. As you have been trying for 2 years and are also still experiencing pain, I would advise speaking to your GP who can refer you to a fertility specialist.

If you are struggling emotionally, we at the Trust believe that talking through what happened and your emotions as and when you can helps the healing process. We operate a helpline service and there's no pressure whatsoever but if you would ever like the opportunity to speak over the phone to someone who has been through a similar experience, do feel free to call, details are below. We can take things at your pace entirely and you are free to ask any questions that are on your mind. You can talk about the ordeal you have been through and express your feelings to vent and let off some steam. We can exchange emails too, if you prefer that route. We'll simply be here for you, however you wish and for as long as you wish.

In addition, you can ask to see a GP at your practice and ask them to explore ways in which you can get help and this can include referrals for "talking therapies" or counselling.

We have information on our website about finding counselling services and we have more information here: http://www.ectopic.org.uk/patients/emotional-impact/

The charity Mind may also be of assistance. They have local centres and support groups and can offer services on a means-tested basis or sometimes free. You can find your local centre following this link if that may be useful too: http://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/local-minds/

These boards are a safe space to share, ask questions, or to vent. They are filled with people who have been through similar experiences and journeys, and we are here for you for as long as you need.

Sending much love,
Karen x

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