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Chantelle1992
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Can't stop thinking about infertility after ectopic

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I suffered an ectopic pregnancy in October 2020. We weren't necessarily trying to conceive, but just happened after me coming off contraception. I found out on the same night that I was pregnant and miscarrying. I had no idea until then. A couple of weeks later and significant bleeding an pain, I found out it was ectopic. I had never even heard of this and this is what is so frustrating to me. Why are we not taught more about this. I tried methotrexate but I ended up rupturing anyway and having my right rube removed early December.
I feel like I have been ok. Dealt with it well. Started to feel OK again physically. But it's like it has all hit me recently. I'm so emotional. I can't stop thinking that I might not be able to conceive naturally now. This has got so bad that I've said to my partner to leave me because I know he wants children in future. I have been thinking about getting a fertility test privately just to put my mind at ease. I know we aren't really ready for a baby, but I'm 28 and dont want to wait to find out I can't then have children. But also don't want to try to conceive for the wrong reasons.
Sorry this is so long. I just wanted to reach out and try to find some sort of comfort in other experiences.

Daniellem202
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Re: Can't stop thinking about infertility after ectopic

Post by Daniellem202 »

Hello, I am only 2 days post op... did they check your other tube to make sure it's all ok? They usually do just to be sure you have a healthy remaining one. It was detailed in my discharge paperwork which has given me some reassurance.
My consultant told me that I'd still be able to conceive via my remaining left hand tube, and that the remaining tube could actually move to collect an egg from my right ovary which I thought was insane!
I know it's hard, but dont loose hope, especially if you still have a healthy tube left xx

Chantelle1992
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Re: Can't stop thinking about infertility after ectopic

Post by Chantelle1992 »

Hey, I'm so sorry to hear that you have been through this too😔 I know sorry doesn't help from experience but hope you recover well and quickly.
Yeh he did tell me that my left tube looked fine but I'm still recking my head thinking something will be wrong with it. He said overall I did look healthy except I have ver mild signs of endometriosis. But nothing to be worried about. But I am worried obviously 🙄.. But thank you for your reply xx

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Re: Can't stop thinking about infertility after ectopic

Post by EPT Host 20 »

Dear Chantelle,
I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy and loss,
It is normal to feel anxious about the future. We experience a mix of emotions from wanting to try again to being petrified of what may lie ahead. We never forget but we can learn to accept what happened. It is a slow process that might be weeks or months ahead. In time, we can get to a place where we feel comfortable trying again. When this is, is individual for each person. There is no timeframe for recovery, take each day as it comes.
Importantly early scans avail. As soon as you know you are pregnant, contact your local EPU to inform them and book in for an early scan at around six weeks. Remind them of your previous ectopic pregnancy. This self refer route is the best route in our view. Hopefully you will have some comfort to know you are under the radar of medical professionals right away.

The chances of a further ectopic after a first in UK is 10%. So that's 90% chance of the embryo being in right place next time.
While generally it is possible to conceive after an ectopic pregnancy, the amount of time it takes varies from couple to couple. Factors include age, general health, reproductive health and how often you have sex, among other things. It may be comforting to know that 65% of women are successfully pregnant within 18 months of experiencing an ectopic pregnancy and some studies suggest this rises to around 85% after two years.
Generally, when a person has only one fallopian tube and both ovaries, they are still able to get pregnant from an egg at the opposite ovary as an egg from one ovary can travel down the tube on the other side. The fallopian tubes are not attached to the ovaries and, at the point of ovulation, some very delicate structures called the fimbriae begin to move gently creating a slight vacuum to suck the egg toward the end of the tube it is nearest to (like lots of little fingers waving and drawing the egg towards it). So, if you have only one tube then there is only one set of receptors working and one set of fimbriae creating a vacuum and so the egg is much more likely to find its way to that tube, whichever ovary it is produced from. Conservative estimates suggest that an egg produced on the tubeless side manages to descend the remaining tube around 15 to 20% of the time.

Making the decision to begin trying to conceive is an emotional rollercoaster compounded by our sad loss. Again, you are not alone. We here emotional support whenever you need us. There is a specific Preparing for your Next Pregnancy board you can look at too whenever feel ready. There are also lots of positive stories on our Pregnant after Ectopic Pregnancy board.

Sending much love,
Karen x

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LittleP27
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Re: Can't stop thinking about infertility after ectopic

Post by LittleP27 »

I am so sorry to hear about your loss Chantelle1992. I know how devastating it is to go through ectopic pregnancy. I was the same. I was loosing hope that I will ever be able to have kids, but reading positive stories gave me some hope. I had my first ectopic pregnancy back in November 2019 I lost my left tube. We decided to start trying again and I found out I was pregnant in March 2020. We were over the moon, but it was a second ectopic on my right side. I thought I would never be able to have baby naturally, but here I am 30 weeks pregnant with a healthy rainbow baby. Don't lose hope, I wish you all the best x

walker_sophie
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Re: Can't stop thinking about infertility after ectopic

Post by walker_sophie »

Hey ladies, so glad I read this post as I’m feeling the exact same. I’m 3 weeks post surgery, I fell pregnant after our contraception failing and taking the morning after pill. I was pregnant for 8 days and starting to process it all and then I started to bleed heavily. Which went onto an ectopic and having to have my right tube removed.

It’s all I can think about now, the future and for some reason now all I want is a baby whereas before it hadn’t really crossed my mind as I didn’t feel ready.

It’s so tough but reassurance from a doctor that my left tube looks absolutely fine is good. We can do it and we will be alright. Let’s think positive! Xxx

lauraleelee
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Re: Can't stop thinking about infertility after ectopic

Post by lauraleelee »

Hi Chantelle,

We’ve both got similar stories. I’m also 28 and fell pregnant in October 2020 after coming off the pill straight away. Had my left tube removed in November and now trying again.

Have you reached out to anyone? I actually spoke to a few friends and found out my friend had one and now has a healthy little girl!

I followed a few account on Instagram as well. Lucieandthebump had one and she has a baby, and theworkoutmum lost her tube too and is currently pregnant.

My surgeon said my other tube looked healthy too, I suffer with anxiety as it is so I try to focus on the positive news from the surgery. Essentially we got a free MOT!

Here if you want a chat, please don’t stress xxx

Chantelle1992
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Re: Can't stop thinking about infertility after ectopic

Post by Chantelle1992 »

Hi everyone,

Sorry I haven't been on here recently. Just been focusing on myself, my health etc and been feeling much better.

Were not overthinking TTC at the moment. Hoping that it will happen naturally for me at some point but I know there are other options for the future if it comes to it.

Thank you all so much for your responses. Just comforting reading other's experiences. Hope you are all well xx

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