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3 weeks post surgery

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Adn
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3 weeks post surgery

Post by Adn »

I had to have surgery 3 weeks ago for Ectopic & lost my right tube. The pregnancy was very much wanted & we had been waiting a long time for.
I feel like I am ‘handling’ it but internally I am struggling (really angry) and physically I have started getting the same sharp stabbing pains in my right side. Has anyone else felt like the pain is still there?
How are you managing/fielding the constant questions of “how are you feeling today?” Because I just don’t know what to say and it making me want to avoid meeting anyone.

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Re: 3 weeks post surgery

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Dear Adn,
I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy and loss,
Experiencing an ectopic pregnancy is a huge ordeal and you are in the early stages of recovery. Your body needs time to heal from your surgery which is in itself a gruelling task. You have also had to process the loss of your baby and been through an immense rollercoaster of emotions - all of this will take time to come to terms with and your feelings are completely normal.

You should take it very easily for about six weeks after surgery. Your body will be using its energies to heal internally. It is normal to feel physically and emotionally exhausted during this time and please do be kind to yourself. Recovery can take time and some days will be better than others, one day you maybe ok and the next you maybe in discomfort or more emotional. This is perfectly usual and the healing process will go back and forth in this way for however long you need. It is important to listen to your body's signals and pain and feeling tired are your body's signs to tell you to rest. We suggest keeping a healthy balanced diet, drinking lots of water and resting. Once your wounds have healed, very gentle exercise such as a short walk can help, but please do take this slowly.

Experiencing some pain after an ectopic pregnancy is normal as your body has been through a great deal over the last few months. The pain may be due to adhesions (scar tissue that binds two parts of the body together) which form and take some time to settle. Your body may be preparing to ovulate and many women experience ovulation pain when they did not before their ectopic pregnancy - including myself. You also may have a heightened perception because of the sad loss that you have had to go through. If you find you experience offensive smelling discharge or an increased temperature of more than 37°C or just want to be checked out to be on the safe side, it would be worth asking your doctors to run tests to check for infection.

When I had my ectopic pregnancy, I found my family and friends didn't truly understand how I felt and expected me to recover emotionally far quicker than I could. Lots of people have never heard about ectopic pregnancy so don't understand it's true impact. If you know the people who are asking how you are well, and you feel you can be. Be open and honest, say if you are in pain still or you are struggling emotionally, it sounds like they want to be there for you. If it is too much to handle right now, take some quiet time for yourself. Do what you have to do, to protect your heart.
These boards are a safe place, they are full of women who have had similar experiences and know that we are all here for you whenever you need,
Sending much love,
Karen x

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