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Feeling frustrated
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Feeling frustrated
I was wandering if anyone else feels this way or what they find helps them. I have appt with dr tomorrow regarding vaccinations etc as my immune system is obviously low, but feel stupid keep phoning them to be told they are not worried and i have to ride it out - i feel stupid even writing this, sorry for the long post, but i am hoping this is a step in the right direction
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Re: Feeling frustrated
My heart aches for all you are going through. Please know you are not stupid in any way for these emotions or for anything you have shared. These boards are filled with women and men who have expressed similar feelings and who continue to recover from their experiences of ectopic pregnancies. These boards are a safe space for you to share, to ask questions, or just to vent. We are here for you.
I want you to know there is nothing you did to cause or could do to prevent an ectopic pregnancy. What you have just been through is both a physical and emotional trauma, and it affects us in ways we cannot possibly know until we have gone through it. Many women on these boards have shared stories of their continuing physical and emotional effects, and their frustration at "just wanting to get back to normal". There is no set timeframe or standard course of recovery. Each woman does it in her own time and own way. While we won't forget our experiences, what I can say is that over time, day by day, things start to feel more normal.
What you are experiencing in regards to seeing other pregnant women and babies is completely natural as well. We can feel happy for their experiences, but also grieve what we have lost at the same time. It does not make us bad people at all. I found that journaling some of my thoughts helped me to understand my own emotions, organize my thoughts and then, later, communicate them with my loved ones
Sometimes these feelings are hard to communicate with others, and for that reason, we at the Trust believe that talking through what happened and your emotions as and when you can help the healing process. We operate a helpline service, and there's no pressure whatsoever but if you would ever like the opportunity to speak over the phone to someone who has been through a similar experience, do feel free to call, details are below. We can take things at your pace entirely, and you are free to ask any questions that are on your mind. You can talk about the ordeal you have been through and express your feelings to vent and let off some steam. We can exchange emails too if you prefer that route.
Also, you can ask to see a GP at your practice and ask them to explore ways in which you can get help, and this can include referrals for "talking therapies" or counselling. We have information on our website about finding counselling services. The charity Mind may also be of assistance. They have local centres and support groups and can offer services on a means-tested basis or sometimes free. You can find your local centre following this link if that may be useful too: http://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/local-minds/
No matter what, we are here for you whenever you need. Please know you are not alone and take all the time you need to look after yourself and recover.
With good wishes,
Michele
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