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Am I ‘normal’?
Am I ‘normal’?
Thank you to anybody who reads this xx
Re: Am I ‘normal’?
Re: Am I ‘normal’?
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Re: Am I ‘normal’?
I guess we will all cope slightly differently following a traumatic event such as ectopic pregnancy.
Personally, I didn't cope very well either and I also struggled with emotions for 2 years before contacting the Trust.
I found comfort in reading others posts. I didn't feel so alone in how I was feeling. I was also advised to try counselling, which I did. Following this, I understood that although I would never forget my pregnancy or baby, I learnt to accept what had happened and crucially understand that it wasn't my fault.
Experiencing ectopic pregnancy can be very isolating. It is a frightening experience. Like you, I reached out to the Trust for support and we will be here for you to lean on for as long as you need.
We at the Trust believe that talking through what happened and your emotions as and when you can helps the healing process. We operate a helpline service and there's no pressure whatsoever but if you would ever like the opportunity to speak over the phone to someone who has been through a similar experience, do feel free to call, details are below. We can take things at your pace entirely and you are free to ask any questions that are on your mind. You can talk about the ordeal you have been through and express your feelings to vent and let off some steam. We can exchange emails too, if you prefer that route. We'll simply be here for you, however you wish and for as long as you wish.
In addition, you can ask to see a GP at your practice and ask them to explore ways in which you can get help and this can include referrals for "talking therapies" or counselling. We have information on our website about finding counselling services
The charity Mind may also be of assistance. They have local centres and support groups and can offer services on a means-tested basis or sometimes free. You can find your local centre following this link if that may be useful too: http://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/local-minds/
Sending much love,
Karen x
The Ectopic Pregnancy Trust
Registered Charity Number: 1071811
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Re: Am I ‘normal’?
Definitely needed this more then I thought!
EPT Host 20 wrote:Dear Bethney,
I guess we will all cope slightly differently following a traumatic event such as ectopic pregnancy.
Personally, I didn't cope very well either and I also struggled with emotions for 2 years before contacting the Trust.
I found comfort in reading others posts. I didn't feel so alone in how I was feeling. I was also advised to try counselling, which I did. Following this, I understood that although I would never forget my pregnancy or baby, I learnt to accept what had happened and crucially understand that it wasn't my fault.
Experiencing ectopic pregnancy can be very isolating. It is a frightening experience. Like you, I reached out to the Trust for support and we will be here for you to lean on for as long as you need.
We at the Trust believe that talking through what happened and your emotions as and when you can helps the healing process. We operate a helpline service and there's no pressure whatsoever but if you would ever like the opportunity to speak over the phone to someone who has been through a similar experience, do feel free to call, details are below. We can take things at your pace entirely and you are free to ask any questions that are on your mind. You can talk about the ordeal you have been through and express your feelings to vent and let off some steam. We can exchange emails too, if you prefer that route. We'll simply be here for you, however you wish and for as long as you wish.
In addition, you can ask to see a GP at your practice and ask them to explore ways in which you can get help and this can include referrals for "talking therapies" or counselling. We have information on our website about finding counselling services
The charity Mind may also be of assistance. They have local centres and support groups and can offer services on a means-tested basis or sometimes free. You can find your local centre following this link if that may be useful too: http://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/local-minds/
Sending much love,
Karen x
The Ectopic Pregnancy Trust
Registered Charity Number: <a href="tel:1071811">1071811</a>
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If we have been able to help you, are you able to help us with a small donation or by volunteering or fundraising?
Further information is available at ectopic.org.uk
Email us: ept@ectopic.org.uk
We provide a call-back helpline service: <a href="tel:020 7733 2653">020 7733 2653</a>
The latest EPT newsletter is out now! You can take a look at the Winter edition and subscribe to our mailing list here: https://mailchi.mp/986bdd6091ee/ectopic-matters
Detailed medical information can be found on our website. Please remember online medical information is NO SUBSTITUTE for expert medical advice from your own health care team
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Re: Am I ‘normal’?
Re: Am I ‘normal’?
Yeh I don’t think people realise how hurtful their comments can be...like they have to have an opinion but they don’t actually know what it’s like to go through it. It’s amazing what we can make people think we feel like by looking at us yet we know we are drowning and struggling to hold it together inside. I don’t think people truly understand what we’ve been through as they’ve not been through it themselves xxBld1 wrote:No problem. It's a help for me as well to know I'm not crazy. This form has been so helpful and hearing the stories as it can be isolating. I may appear like i have it all together and than all it takes is a little baby to remind me of the bitter reality of what happened. It amazes me how much love you can have for something without a heartbeat. The part that really upset me was when two separate people seemed to be shocked with how emotional I was and than proceeded to tell me "but you know its not a baby right"? We all started out that way..like a seed in the earth doesn't grow into a plant with out the first beginnings...for the most part people are helpful but some just make it worse. Thanks for listening. Xox
Re: Am I ‘normal’?
Re: Am I ‘normal’?
Bld1 wrote:Well I hope this never happens again. I'm just gonna avoid small children for a while. Which means I wont get to see my friends as they are literally all preganant or have just had babies. It's just too hard. I'm fine and than I get together with one of them and they talk about their excitement. I than just get really confused as I never wanted kids and now I don't know what I want. I'm too scared to go through the same ordeal again and I'm unsure that I'll ever be ready for kids. Now I can't help but think, maybe I'm supposed to have a child. These types of situations change a person and I'm scared that it's changed my mind on something I was always so sure about. I still feel so disconnected to myself I don't know about you? I hope this will change then things will go back to normal.