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1 week post surgery
1 week post surgery
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This is the first time I’ve wrote on here so hopefully I’m doing it right!
I am nearly 9 weeks post surgery. I was over the moon to find out I was finally pregnant, I paid for a private early scan at 7 weeks and was told it was ectopic, I was devastated. I had to leave my partner there and was taken to hosp in ambulance and had surgery the same day and stayed in over night. Cos of covid I also had to go through this on my own as partner not allowed in hosp.
I just wanted to reply to you because I was told “wait three weeks and then do a preg test which should be negative” - I waited three weeks and did a test but it was positive, so I panicked and thought something had gone wrong. I went to the hosp for a scan and blood test but it turns out your hormones/hcg levels can be all over the place for 6-8 weeks. I have been going back to the hosp every week for a blood test since my positive test result 5 weeks ago and luckily my hormones have slowly been going down and I found out yesterday they are finally on 0.
I just wanted to share this with you cos the hosp made me feel like if I got a positive test something would be wrong. Of course if you get a positive test in 3 weeks ring your hosp straight away, but please don’t panic like I did because your hormones can take a while to get back to normal.
Sending you a big hug, I know how you are feeling right now, please feel free to ask me anything.
Wishing you all the best with your recovery xx
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I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy and loss, and of your lack of support.
I am glad you found the Trust and posted here, we are all here for you.
Experiencing an ectopic pregnancy is a huge ordeal and you are in the early stages of recovery. Your body needs time to heal from your surgery which is in itself a gruelling task. You have also had to process the loss of your baby and been through an immense rollercoaster of emotions - all of this will take time to come to terms with.
You should take it very easily for about six weeks after surgery. Your body will be using its energies to heal internally. It is normal to feel physically and emotionally exhausted during this time and please do be kind to yourself. Recovery can take time and some days will be better than others, one day you maybe ok and the next you maybe in discomfort or more emotional. This is perfectly usual and the healing process will go back and forth in this way for however long you need. It is important to listen to your body's signals and pain and feeling tired are your body's signs to tell you to rest. We suggest keeping a healthy balanced diet, drinking lots of water and resting. Once your wounds have healed, very gentle exercise such as a short walk can help, but please do take this slowly.
If you have any specific questions, we will try our best to answer them for you.
Above all be kind to yourself and allow time to grieve, to heal both physically and emotionally.
Sending much love and warm hugs,
Karen x
The Ectopic Pregnancy Trust
Registered Charity Number: 1071811
Ectopic pregnancy patient information suite: Highly Commended in the 2019 BMA Patient Information Awards
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During the coronavirus outbreak, The EPT team is still working hard to provide crucial information and support to women and families experiencing ectopic pregnancy as quickly and efficiently as we can.
If we have been able to help you, are you able to help us with a small donation or by volunteering or fundraising?
Further information is available at ectopic.org.uk
Email us: ept@ectopic.org.uk
We provide a call-back helpline service: 020 7733 2653
Take a look at our newsletters and subscribe to our mailing list here: https://mailchi.mp/986bdd6091ee/ectopic-matters
Detailed medical information can be found on our website. Please remember online medical information is NO SUBSTITUTE for expert medical advice from your own health care team
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Re: 1 week post surgery
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I am so sorry to hear you are having a difficult day.
Do remember it is still early days for you and when we experience ectopic pregnancy we are suddenly faced with a life threatening emergency and it's treatment, reduction in fertility, concerns about the future and the loss of our babies. Experiencing any one of these is an ordeal, putting them together is immense and your feelings are completely normal.
I too really struggled with the emails and alerts that I had signed up for informing me how far pregnant I should have been. In the end I gave my phone to my partner and asked him to go through and cancel them all.
We also hear from many women who struggle with news about pregnancy from their friends and families or struggle with the constant reminders of pregnancies and babies. This is very normal and I was the same after my loss. When I had my ectopic pregnancy I had to attend a family function and a close family member was heavily pregnant. I spent the whole day and evening avoiding her as I found it too hard to be near her. It's what I needed to do to get through the day and have some space and please protect your heart in whatever way you need. This does not make us "bad" people and it is possible to be happy for those around us while grieving for our own loss. Pregnancies and babies can be a very stark reminder of what could have been and it can be painful. Please do be gentle with yourself and you can talk to us whenever you need.
Sending much love,
Karen x
The Ectopic Pregnancy Trust
Registered Charity Number: 1071811
Ectopic pregnancy patient information suite: Highly Commended in the 2019 BMA Patient Information Awards
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During the coronavirus outbreak, The EPT team is still working hard to provide crucial information and support to women and families experiencing ectopic pregnancy as quickly and efficiently as we can.
If we have been able to help you, are you able to help us with a small donation or by volunteering or fundraising?
Further information is available at ectopic.org.uk
Email us: ept@ectopic.org.uk
We provide a call-back helpline service: 020 7733 2653
Take a look at our newsletters and subscribe to our mailing list here: https://mailchi.mp/986bdd6091ee/ectopic-matters
Detailed medical information can be found on our website. Please remember online medical information is NO SUBSTITUTE for expert medical advice from your own health care team
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Re: 1 week post surgery
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I felt exactly the same felt like something massive had just happened to me , then got discharged and was left to research about the future. I got a leaflet but still had and still do have lots of questions and it’s been 7 weeks now. It’s such a worrying time , I was anxious about doing the pregnancy test; the first period . Every where on social media seemed to be couples announcing pregnancies or sharing baby related posts- I just felt all over the place.
If you ever want a chat I’m happy to email or whatever ?
Take care , it’s still very early days, I still have difficult days now.
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I'm with Tara2 on this one, it was 11 weeks yday I had my operation and my right tube removed and I still struggle with it now, even simple things like going to [Brand Name not allowed] I felt surrounded by pregnant women an babies, had to put my shopping back an go back later int he night when itwas quiet, as daft as that is, that's how my head was in the moment.
I never knew I was pregnant an it was my first at 28, one minute I was being told the pain I had was probably from being pregnant then minutes later it was eptopic an I was being rushed in for surgery as it had already ruptured an lost half my bodyblood to my abdomen. It's such a horrible thing I had a glimmer of happiness an hope then it all came crashing down in an instant. An there was nothing me or anyone else could do an I was all alone through it. I never thought of singing up to here at the time an having other ladies to talk to it about. Thatl help you more than you think. I bottled everything up an my relationship crumbled as a result. It happens.
You will get there. I have good days now where I don't even think about it, slightly easier as I have memory issues I guess but won't be long for you either till you get those days, others are still unbearable but that's the corse of things in our situation I guess. Sending my prayers to you Hun it's a hard time for you right now.
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Re: 1 week post surgery
Before having a period you have to ovulate and it is possible to become pregnant without having a proper period first, if you are not using contraception. If you have had a positive pregnancy test but experienced some bleeding, I would advise speaking to your GP who maybe able to arrange blood tests to check your hCG.
Sadly I do have to remind you that if you experience any worsening bleeding or abdominal pain or feel dizzy and unwell to seek urgent medical advice.
Sending much love and positive thoughts,
Karen x
The Ectopic Pregnancy Trust
Registered Charity Number: 1071811
Ectopic pregnancy patient information suite: Highly Commended in the 2019 BMA Patient Information Awards
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During the coronavirus outbreak, The EPT team is still working hard to provide crucial information and support to women and families experiencing ectopic pregnancy as quickly and efficiently as we can.
If we have been able to help you, are you able to help us with a small donation or by volunteering or fundraising?
Further information is available at ectopic.org.uk
Email us: ept@ectopic.org.uk
We provide a call-back helpline service: 020 7733 2653
Take a look at our newsletters and subscribe to our mailing list here: https://mailchi.mp/986bdd6091ee/ectopic-matters
Detailed medical information can be found on our website. Please remember online medical information is NO SUBSTITUTE for expert medical advice from your own health care team
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I am so sorry to hear this, to experience one loss is difficult to deal with multiple losses is heartbreaking and my heart truly goes out to you.
Miscarriage is not linked to ectopic pregnancy, however the incidence of miscarriage is 1 in 5 pregnancies, and so I'm so sorry that you have gone through this.
Please be kind to yourself and allow time to grieve, to heal both physically and emotionally. Your feelings are completely normal after everything you have experienced, however if the down days start to outweigh the good, we at the Trust believe that talking through what happened and your emotions as and when you can helps the healing process. We operate a helpline service and there's no pressure whatsoever but if you would ever like the opportunity to speak over the phone to someone who has been through a similar experience, do feel free to call, details are below. We can take things at your pace entirely and you are free to ask any questions that are on your mind. You can talk about the ordeal you have been through and express your feelings to vent and let off some steam. We can exchange emails too, if you prefer that route. We'll simply be here for you, however you wish and for as long as you wish.
In addition, you can ask to see a GP at your practice and ask them to explore ways in which you can get help and this can include referrals for "talking therapies" or counselling.
We have information on our website about finding counselling services and we have more information here: http://www.ectopic.org.uk/patients/emotional-impact/
The charity Mind may also be of assistance. They have local centres and support groups and can offer services on a means-tested basis or sometimes free. You can find your local centre following this link if that may be useful too: http://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/local-minds/
Above all be kind to yourself and allow time to grieve, to heal both physically and emotionally.
Sending much love and warm hugs,
Karen x
The Ectopic Pregnancy Trust
Registered Charity Number: 1071811
Ectopic pregnancy patient information suite: Highly Commended in the 2019 BMA Patient Information Awards
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During the coronavirus outbreak, The EPT team is still working hard to provide crucial information and support to women and families experiencing ectopic pregnancy as quickly and efficiently as we can.
If we have been able to help you, are you able to help us with a small donation or by volunteering or fundraising?
Further information is available at ectopic.org.uk
Email us: ept@ectopic.org.uk
We provide a call-back helpline service: 020 7733 2653
Take a look at our newsletters and subscribe to our mailing list here: https://mailchi.mp/986bdd6091ee/ectopic-matters
Detailed medical information can be found on our website. Please remember online medical information is NO SUBSTITUTE for expert medical advice from your own health care team
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