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Ridiculously Struggling
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Ridiculously Struggling
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Listen, I'm really sorry for my outburst of anger here but I am furious that you have been treated in such a sadistic manner.
Please don't take offence to anything I say to you here, I am on your side indefinitely.
Your ex partner sounds like a sociopathic fool. Number 1, it takes two to tango and he can protect himself from conception as much as you can...
Sweet girl, please, during your time of recovery, sit and think about how you have been treated, think about all you have just gone through and think about how you've had a lucky escape from a horrible man who you do not want to raise a child with.
I love by the motto that everything happens for a reason and God certainly knew that this little boy was not fit to be a father.
You deserve to be treated so much better than this, what you have just gone through is horrific and nothing less than awful.
You need to give yourself time to recover from surgery, recover mentally from the loss and the operation itself and find yourself again.
Focus on you and your daughter. You deserve to be selfish right now, everything is about you and its completely fine to feel that way too.
You've got this girl, us women are resilient, we take on the world without a second thought and any man who can't see that doesn't deserve to be in your life.
Binge watch TV, eat as much chocolate as you want and cry until your hearts content.
You'll pull through, I guarantee it.
Sending you so much love xxx
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I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy and loss and so sorry for the stress you have had to endure.
Firstly can I say that there is nothing you could have done to prevent the ectopic pregnancy from happening. From the bottom of my heart, you are not to blame and you are among friends here who understand.
I am in no way condoning your partner's behaviour bit I wonder if it was brought on by shock. If you did want to pursue your relationship with him, I would suggest couples counselling where you can both discuss your concerns in a safe environment. It is sometimes helpful to direct partners to this website so they can read the information we have and also look at posts. We have a men's space post too which has very helpful posts from a man's perspective, he may find helpful.
For now however I want to concentrate on you. When we experience ectopic pregnancy we are suddenly faced with a life threatening emergency and it's treatment, reduction in fertility, concerns about the future and the loss of our babies. Experiencing any one of these is an ordeal, putting them together is immense and your feelings are completely normal. These boards are a safe space to share, ask questions, or to vent. They are filled with people who have been through similar experiences and journeys, and we are here for you for as long as you need.
If you feel your down days start to outweigh the good, we at the Trust believe that talking through what happened and your emotions as and when you can helps the healing process. We operate a helpline service and there's no pressure whatsoever but if you would ever like the opportunity to speak over the phone to someone who has been through a similar experience, do feel free to call, details are below. We can take things at your pace entirely and you are free to ask any questions that are on your mind. You can talk about the ordeal you have been through and express your feelings to vent and let off some steam. We can exchange emails too, if you prefer that route. We'll simply be here for you, however you wish and for as long as you wish.
In addition, you can ask to see a GP at your practice and ask them to explore ways in which you can get help and this can include referrals for "talking therapies" or counselling.
We have information on our website about finding counselling services and we have more information here: http://www.ectopic.org.uk/patients/emotional-impact/
The charity Mind may also be of assistance. They have local centres and support groups and can offer services on a means-tested basis or sometimes free. You can find your local centre following this link if that may be useful too: http://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/local-minds/
Many women experience feelings of isolation after an ectopic pregnancy - I did, too. It is a frightening experience. Like you, I reached out to the Trust for support and we will be here for you to lean on for as long as you need.
Sending much love and warm hugs,
Karen x
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