Hi,
I’m looking to gage other women’s experiences in an ectopic pregnancy who didn’t know they were pregnant. As empowering as it is to hear other women’s stories about their pregnancy after ectopics, my experience is slightly different. I was on contraception (copper coil) when I fell pregnant and was 8 weeks before I’d realised something was wrong (I assumed the bleeding was a bad period). Seeing a positive pregnancy test opened up a world full of emotions for me and my fiancé around becoming parents, despite not trying for a baby. This thoughts soon faded as I knew deep down the pregnancy would likely involve complications due to having the coil. I went into hospital and within 24h the surgery for a ruptured ectopic pregnancy had been done, luckily both my tubes were still intact.
I am just posting to see any other similar experiences as now I am battling with, “it wasn’t the right time” and now I’ve been pregnant once part of me wants it again?
Thank you for reading.
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Ectopic pregnancy (unplanned pregnancy)
Re: Ectopic pregnancy (unplanned pregnancy)
Hi,
I am so sorry to hear what you and your fiancé have gone through.
My fiancé and I have gone through the exact same thing- although I was not on the coil. We unexpectedly became pregnant and although it was completely unplanned, we very quickly entered into a whole new world that suddenly felt right and we were so excited for it.
Since I have had surgery (last Friday), I have tried having a few conversations with my fiancé as I feel so sad to not be pregnant or entering that world as first thought. My fiancé however, wants to now wait until after the wedding in 2025 to try again. So, I am hoping the wedding planning can fill a little void in the mean time and continue to live our lives as a couple before parenthood, but I am not sure how that will go! I desperately want to try again but with time I may feel a little differently. I am not sure...
It's amazing both your tubes are still intact. I completely understand when you have commented stating maybe 'it was not the right time'. This is all we have heard from our friends and families and 'the world works in funny ways'.
Have you and your fiancé had any conversations about wanting to try again or a rough time frame for the future? I hope you are both ok and I can completely relate to how you are feeling! It's such an unexpected mix of emotions that suddenly come crashing down with little information of how to move forward/what's the right thing to do now.
Lot's of love x
I am so sorry to hear what you and your fiancé have gone through.
My fiancé and I have gone through the exact same thing- although I was not on the coil. We unexpectedly became pregnant and although it was completely unplanned, we very quickly entered into a whole new world that suddenly felt right and we were so excited for it.
Since I have had surgery (last Friday), I have tried having a few conversations with my fiancé as I feel so sad to not be pregnant or entering that world as first thought. My fiancé however, wants to now wait until after the wedding in 2025 to try again. So, I am hoping the wedding planning can fill a little void in the mean time and continue to live our lives as a couple before parenthood, but I am not sure how that will go! I desperately want to try again but with time I may feel a little differently. I am not sure...
It's amazing both your tubes are still intact. I completely understand when you have commented stating maybe 'it was not the right time'. This is all we have heard from our friends and families and 'the world works in funny ways'.
Have you and your fiancé had any conversations about wanting to try again or a rough time frame for the future? I hope you are both ok and I can completely relate to how you are feeling! It's such an unexpected mix of emotions that suddenly come crashing down with little information of how to move forward/what's the right thing to do now.
Lot's of love x
