Hope and thanks

[HollyM]

I've been meaning to write this post for a while. I never engaged in this forum but silently read people's stories looking for hope as I recovered from my ectopic last year.

Here's my story and I hope it helps bring light to others...

After a long time trying to conceive our second baby I was overjoyed to discover I was pregnant in March last year. There were real tears of elation and joy. We'd finally done it. The monthly tracking, ovulation and two week wait was all over. The tests, the scans, the procedures, reflexology, acupuncture, all of it now irrelevant, we felt like we'd crossed the finish line. Which to anyone who's tried for ages will know how it feels. I could lift my head once more and smile at mums with prams.

This lasted all of one week. I didn't feel quite right. Something in the pit of my stomach was ever present and then I started spotting. I had emergency surgery on the 29th March and lost my left tube. The only other time I'd even been in hospital before was to have our daughter so this was a total juxtaposition and so traumatic. I also tested positive for COVID during my stay. Life literally couldn't have been any worse. Earth shattering and devastated beyond belief. Frightened for myself. Sad for our loss and ever more worried about the months ahead.

Anyone reading this who has just been through surgery you'll want to know why but you'll also be worried about the future ahead and whether you'll ever get pregnant again. This was all I could think about. It consumed me. I read so many hopeful stories on here and elsewhere but in all honesty given my age, 38 and my low ovarian reserve, losing my left tube felt like it was never going to be possible and we'd hit the end of the road.

The human body is a strange and mysterious vessel. I fell pregnant on my 2nd cycle after the ectopic. How after all the years of trying and now minus a tube could I be pregnant again?! I couldn't rationalise it. It was a long wait until the 6 week scan to confirm everything was where it should be but that day I'll never forget. I had my mum with me holding my hand fully expecting bad news but it was the opposite and we even saw the babies heartbeat.

I had a healthy pregnancy and gave birth to our second daughter on the 5th March this year. We called her Constance "Connie" which means perseverance matter what the obstacles faced.

[HollyM]

I've been meaning to write this post for a while. I never engaged in this forum but silently read people's stories looking for hope as I recovered from my ectopic last year.

Here's my story and I hope it helps bring light to others...

After a long time trying to conceive our second baby I was overjoyed to discover I was pregnant in March last year. There were real tears of elation and joy. We'd finally done it. The monthly tracking, ovulation and two week wait was all over. The tests, the scans, the procedures, reflexology, acupuncture, all of it now irrelevant, we felt like we'd crossed the finish line. Which to anyone who's tried for ages will know how it feels. I could lift my head once more and smile at mums with prams.

This lasted all of one week. I didn't feel quite right. Something in the pit of my stomach was ever present and then I started spotting. I had emergency surgery on the 29th March and lost my left tube. The only other time I'd even been in hospital before was to have our daughter so this was a total juxtaposition and so traumatic. I also tested positive for COVID during my stay. Life literally couldn't have been any worse. Earth shattering and devastated beyond belief. Frightened for myself. Sad for our loss and ever more worried about the months ahead.

Anyone reading this who has just been through surgery you'll want to know why but you'll also be worried about the future ahead and whether you'll ever get pregnant again. This was all I could think about. It consumed me. I read so many hopeful stories on here and elsewhere but in all honesty given my age, 38 and my low ovarian reserve, losing my left tube felt like it was never going to be possible and we'd hit the end of the road.

The human body is a strange and mysterious vessel. I fell pregnant on my 2nd cycle after the ectopic. How after all the years of trying and now minus a tube could I be pregnant again?! I couldn't rationalise it. It was a long wait until the 6 week scan to confirm everything was where it should be but that day I'll never forget. I had my mum with me holding my hand fully expecting bad news but it was the opposite and we even saw the babies heartbeat.

I had a healthy pregnancy and gave birth to our second daughter on the 5th March this year. We called her Constance "Connie" which means perseverance matter what the obstacles faced.

Thank you to those who wrote stories that have me hope.

[Mat_alog]

Hi HollyM,
Thank you for sharing. I am sorry that it has been such a hard journey but glad that it ended up this way ! I Just left my right tube and I definitely needed to hear this story !

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Dear Holly,
Congratulations on the safe arrival of your daughter earlier this year.
Thank you so much for taking the time to come on these boards, share your story and your wonderful news. You can already see how much hope it brings.
Sending much love,
Karen x

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