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How to recover after a near death emergency ectopic pregnancy surgery?
How to recover after a near death emergency ectopic pregnancy surgery?
Hello everyone. I’m new here to this community so not sure how to even start this post but I need community so just going to go for it. Christmas morning I was rushed to the hospital into emergency surgery. My left tube ruptured, I lost 60% of my blood and almost didn’t make it. My husband and I were planning on telling everyone we were pregnant that morning on Christmas Day. We have never been happier knowing that we were going to be parents. I’m home recovering after being in the hospital for 2 nights and panicking after every single weird symptom I’m having. Thinking I’m going to die, and my body is yet again going to fail me. My husband went through [heck]. We have all the gifts under our tree about the baby and the announcement. My best friend is coming over tomorrow to get those from us but I can’t even look at my house without feeling sick. How do we heal from this? How do I get past the fear of dying in recovery while also trying to process the loss and be here for my loving and amazing husband who doesn’t expect me to do anything. How do I find myself again?
Re: How to recover after a near death emergency ectopic pregnancy surgery?
Hey MrsAmber,
I am so sorry for your loss and the awful experience you just went through. I can't imagine going through that much wiht the blood loss and scare you experienced.. I can only speak from my own experience which is a bit différent but I hope can help. I had two EPs this past yr, one treated w MTX and one with surgery. I didn't end up rupturing, but they initally thought I had and started rushing me to surgery before revising their diagnosis. It hasn't gotten easy and I can't say I'm over it, but it has been getting easier. I was really freaked out at any pain for a while, and though to some extent I still am, my reactions have smoothed out and become less intense as the weeks have gone. I still feel a lot of sadness and fear but less often and less intense with time.
Give yourself as much time and space as you feel you need and let others care for you if you can. What you've gone through is incredibly hard, but with time it will get better, even if it is slow going at first.
Take care. Xo Cam
I am so sorry for your loss and the awful experience you just went through. I can't imagine going through that much wiht the blood loss and scare you experienced.. I can only speak from my own experience which is a bit différent but I hope can help. I had two EPs this past yr, one treated w MTX and one with surgery. I didn't end up rupturing, but they initally thought I had and started rushing me to surgery before revising their diagnosis. It hasn't gotten easy and I can't say I'm over it, but it has been getting easier. I was really freaked out at any pain for a while, and though to some extent I still am, my reactions have smoothed out and become less intense as the weeks have gone. I still feel a lot of sadness and fear but less often and less intense with time.
Give yourself as much time and space as you feel you need and let others care for you if you can. What you've gone through is incredibly hard, but with time it will get better, even if it is slow going at first.
Take care. Xo Cam
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Re: How to recover after a near death emergency ectopic pregnancy surgery?
Hi Mrs Amber
I'm so sorry you've gone through this.
I had an ectopic pregnancy experience over xmas 2022. It's such a hard time to experience this. One minute you're happy, there's a baby and then you're told it's not going to happen. It's really hard.
My experience even when I used the word ectopic friends were saying well its common happens to a lot of women, you can try again, it's like no it's not common and it doesn't happen to lot of women, I guess just saying what they could to make me feel better.
It's also hard living with the idea that my body failed me and my pregnancy being harmful to me, I have PTSD from it. I've not slept in my bed since, I had woken up in my bed in pain laying flat with ectopic pain, sofa I sleep sitting up.
I would say just focus on your body healing first, then emotionally take it day by day, feelings are fluid, I remember the severe pain I had physically I was like never again will I try again, but then I did I'm still trying, I had a chemical months after. If its top bad think about counselling.
I'm so sorry you've gone through this.
I had an ectopic pregnancy experience over xmas 2022. It's such a hard time to experience this. One minute you're happy, there's a baby and then you're told it's not going to happen. It's really hard.
My experience even when I used the word ectopic friends were saying well its common happens to a lot of women, you can try again, it's like no it's not common and it doesn't happen to lot of women, I guess just saying what they could to make me feel better.
It's also hard living with the idea that my body failed me and my pregnancy being harmful to me, I have PTSD from it. I've not slept in my bed since, I had woken up in my bed in pain laying flat with ectopic pain, sofa I sleep sitting up.
I would say just focus on your body healing first, then emotionally take it day by day, feelings are fluid, I remember the severe pain I had physically I was like never again will I try again, but then I did I'm still trying, I had a chemical months after. If its top bad think about counselling.
MrsAmber wrote: ↑Thu Dec 28, 2023 10:30 amHello everyone. I’m new here to this community so not sure how to even start this post but I need community so just going to go for it. Christmas morning I was rushed to the hospital into emergency surgery. My left tube ruptured, I lost 60% of my blood and almost didn’t make it. My husband and I were planning on telling everyone we were pregnant that morning on Christmas Day. We have never been happier knowing that we were going to be parents. I’m home recovering after being in the hospital for 2 nights and panicking after every single weird symptom I’m having. Thinking I’m going to die, and my body is yet again going to fail me. My husband went through [heck]. We have all the gifts under our tree about the baby and the announcement. My best friend is coming over tomorrow to get those from us but I can’t even look at my house without feeling sick. How do we heal from this? How do I get past the fear of dying in recovery while also trying to process the loss and be here for my loving and amazing husband who doesn’t expect me to do anything. How do I find myself again?
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Re: How to recover after a near death emergency ectopic pregnancy surgery?
Dear MrsAmber,
I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy loss, from your own words I can only imagine what a frightening experience this must have been and I am so sorry you have had to go through this.
You are in the very early days of recovery and it can take up to 3 months to even begin to process traumatic events like this. He kind to yourself and allow time to grieve and heal both physically and emotionally. These boards are also a safe space to share experiences or vent, we shall simply be here for you.
The feelings you describe are very understandable. You have had so much to process in a very small timeframe - the ordeal of a life threatening diagnosis, surgical treatment, losing a pregnancy and concerns about the future. Any one of these is hard to contend with and putting it all together is immense. After a frightening ordeal like ectopic pregnancy, some women find that they suffer from Post Traumatic Stress and symptoms can include anxiety and not being able to focus on everyday things like work. There are a number of avenues that you could look into to get the help that you need.
We at the Trust believe that talking through what happened and your emotions as and when you can helps the healing process. We operate a helpline service and there's no pressure whatsoever but if you would ever like the opportunity to speak over the phone to someone who has been through a similar experience, do feel free to call, details are below. We can take things at your pace entirely and you are free to ask any questions that are on your mind. You can talk about the ordeal you have been through and express your feelings to vent and let off some steam. We can exchange emails too, if you prefer that route. We'll simply be here for you, however you wish and for as long as you wish.
In addition, you can ask to see a GP at your practice and ask them to explore ways in which you can get help and this can include referrals for "talking therapies" or counselling.
We have information on our website about finding counselling services and we have more information here: http://www.ectopic.org.uk/patients/emotional-impact/
The charity Mind may also be of assistance. They have local centres and support groups and can offer services on a means-tested basis or sometimes free. You can find your local centre following this link if that may be useful too: http://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/local-minds/
Many women experience feelings of isolation after an ectopic pregnancy - I did, too. It is a frightening experience. Like you, I reached out to the Trust for support and we will be here for you to lean on for as long as you need.
Sending much love and warm hugs,
Karen x
The Ectopic Pregnancy Trust
Registered Charity Number: 1071811
The EPT is awarded the PIF TICK as a Trusted Information Creator, the UK-wide quality mark for healthcare information
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I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy loss, from your own words I can only imagine what a frightening experience this must have been and I am so sorry you have had to go through this.
You are in the very early days of recovery and it can take up to 3 months to even begin to process traumatic events like this. He kind to yourself and allow time to grieve and heal both physically and emotionally. These boards are also a safe space to share experiences or vent, we shall simply be here for you.
The feelings you describe are very understandable. You have had so much to process in a very small timeframe - the ordeal of a life threatening diagnosis, surgical treatment, losing a pregnancy and concerns about the future. Any one of these is hard to contend with and putting it all together is immense. After a frightening ordeal like ectopic pregnancy, some women find that they suffer from Post Traumatic Stress and symptoms can include anxiety and not being able to focus on everyday things like work. There are a number of avenues that you could look into to get the help that you need.
We at the Trust believe that talking through what happened and your emotions as and when you can helps the healing process. We operate a helpline service and there's no pressure whatsoever but if you would ever like the opportunity to speak over the phone to someone who has been through a similar experience, do feel free to call, details are below. We can take things at your pace entirely and you are free to ask any questions that are on your mind. You can talk about the ordeal you have been through and express your feelings to vent and let off some steam. We can exchange emails too, if you prefer that route. We'll simply be here for you, however you wish and for as long as you wish.
In addition, you can ask to see a GP at your practice and ask them to explore ways in which you can get help and this can include referrals for "talking therapies" or counselling.
We have information on our website about finding counselling services and we have more information here: http://www.ectopic.org.uk/patients/emotional-impact/
The charity Mind may also be of assistance. They have local centres and support groups and can offer services on a means-tested basis or sometimes free. You can find your local centre following this link if that may be useful too: http://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/local-minds/
Many women experience feelings of isolation after an ectopic pregnancy - I did, too. It is a frightening experience. Like you, I reached out to the Trust for support and we will be here for you to lean on for as long as you need.
Sending much love and warm hugs,
Karen x
The Ectopic Pregnancy Trust
Registered Charity Number: 1071811
The EPT is awarded the PIF TICK as a Trusted Information Creator, the UK-wide quality mark for healthcare information
*************************************************************************
If the information provided here or through the EPT website has helped you, you can donate towards our support services, volunteer, or fundraise to raise awareness.
Further information is available on our website.
Email us: ept@ectopic.org.uk
We provide a call-back support line: 020 7733 2653. We are able to provide support in multiple languages including British Sign Language.
Take a look at our newsletters and subscribe to our mailing list.
Detailed medical information can be found on our website. Please remember online medical information is NO SUBSTITUTE for expert medical advice from your own health care team
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