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Feeling Alone
Feeling Alone
It’s been 6 weeks since my surgery and I am feeling very alone all the posts I seem to read are with people with partners or married, is there anyone else out there going threw this alone, the guy I was seeing before I found out I was pregnant stoped talking to me when I said I was pregnant and having the baby, when I found out it was ectopic he asked if he could see me but never did he doesn’t understand why I have been so emotional and angry but his lack of support has made this even harder, he was actually already seeing someone else while I was going threw this alone. I feel so stupid and angry and that he has took apart of me (my left tube) with him and also the loss of the baby that I had envisioned my life with, he has called me crazy and blocked me on everything he doesn’t seem to understand why I’m so hurt is there anybody else in similar position or doing this alone and relate to how lonely it really is.
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ChaoticBlues
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Re: Feeling Alone
Hi Lau90,
I'm sorry you went through an ectopic pregnancy, it really is one of hardest things to go through physically and emotionally.
I went through my ectopic alone, although I was a single mum by choice, but I went through the ectopic and the treatment by myself. An ectopic for me felt so alienating, it's not just a pregnancy loss, its uncommon and its also this fear of risk to your own life, so that by itself was hard but added with that being by yourself is even more alienating. Not everyone understands the feelings.
Sounds like you may be grieving not just the ectopic but also your relationship. Know your feelings are valid, it takes time to process your feelings, so be kind to yourself and take it day by day.
I'm sorry you went through an ectopic pregnancy, it really is one of hardest things to go through physically and emotionally.
I went through my ectopic alone, although I was a single mum by choice, but I went through the ectopic and the treatment by myself. An ectopic for me felt so alienating, it's not just a pregnancy loss, its uncommon and its also this fear of risk to your own life, so that by itself was hard but added with that being by yourself is even more alienating. Not everyone understands the feelings.
Sounds like you may be grieving not just the ectopic but also your relationship. Know your feelings are valid, it takes time to process your feelings, so be kind to yourself and take it day by day.
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EPT Host 20
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Re: Feeling Alone
Dear Lau,
I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy loss and everything you have been through. Experiencing ectopic pregnancy can feel very isolating at the best of times, let alone when your relationship has broken down.
I just wanted to post to say that we are here for support. These boards are safe spaces to express your feelings, ask questions or vent if you need too. We also offer email and telephone services if you wish to have more individualised support (Details on how to contact us below)
For now be kind to yourself, if you have friends or family who can offer support, take them up on it. I found my friends and family didn't quite understand how I was feeling, although they were well meaning, so please continue to lean on us for as long as you need.
Sending much love and warm hugs,
Karen x
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I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy loss and everything you have been through. Experiencing ectopic pregnancy can feel very isolating at the best of times, let alone when your relationship has broken down.
I just wanted to post to say that we are here for support. These boards are safe spaces to express your feelings, ask questions or vent if you need too. We also offer email and telephone services if you wish to have more individualised support (Details on how to contact us below)
For now be kind to yourself, if you have friends or family who can offer support, take them up on it. I found my friends and family didn't quite understand how I was feeling, although they were well meaning, so please continue to lean on us for as long as you need.
Sending much love and warm hugs,
Karen x
The Ectopic Pregnancy Trust
Registered Charity Number: 1071811
The EPT is awarded the PIF TICK as a Trusted Information Creator, the UK-wide quality mark for healthcare information
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If the information provided here or through the EPT website has helped you, you can donate towards our support services, volunteer, or fundraise to raise awareness.
Further information is available on our website.
Email us: ept@ectopic.org.uk
We provide a call-back support line: 020 7733 2653. We are able to provide support in multiple languages including British Sign Language.
Take a look at our newsletters and subscribe to our mailing list.
Detailed medical information can be found on our website. Please remember online medical information is NO SUBSTITUTE for expert medical advice from your own health care team
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Re: Feeling Alone
Yes I feel very alone. I do not live close to family and I thought I was a tough as nails person, until I went through this, it has really tested me mentally, physically, and emotionally.
I have a partner who has been supportive but i still feel isolated and scared at times. I am unable to work (which stresses me out, and I am uncertain for how long) and although I do have a person, he still had to work during times when I had the most pain and was the most scared.
In fact I would say his support for me has been just okay. I know this stuff is stressful for both parties but honestly, I don’t think he seems to understand the gravity of an ectopic pregnancy. So although I do have a partner, I still feel the way you do.
I am jealous in a way that he can just go do whatever, whenever and I am stuck in bed. And although other people have reached out to me via social media to check in, it still feels lonely and impersonal.
These are just some of the things I have felt going through this. I know the hormones and the pain levels add to these feelings as well. I know you feel alone but you are not. There are others (like me) going through this as well at the exact time you are.
I have a partner who has been supportive but i still feel isolated and scared at times. I am unable to work (which stresses me out, and I am uncertain for how long) and although I do have a person, he still had to work during times when I had the most pain and was the most scared.
In fact I would say his support for me has been just okay. I know this stuff is stressful for both parties but honestly, I don’t think he seems to understand the gravity of an ectopic pregnancy. So although I do have a partner, I still feel the way you do.
I am jealous in a way that he can just go do whatever, whenever and I am stuck in bed. And although other people have reached out to me via social media to check in, it still feels lonely and impersonal.
These are just some of the things I have felt going through this. I know the hormones and the pain levels add to these feelings as well. I know you feel alone but you are not. There are others (like me) going through this as well at the exact time you are.
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Re: Feeling Alone
Dear Tinyjewel,
I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy loss,
When we experience ectopic pregnancy we are suddenly faced with a life threatening emergency and it's treatment, reduction in fertility, concerns about the future and the loss of our babies. Experiencing any one of these is an ordeal, putting them together is immense and your feelings are completely normal.
Many women experience feelings of isolation after an ectopic pregnancy - I did, too. It is a frightening experience. Like you, I reached out to the Trust for support and I will be here for you to lean on for as long as you need.
Above all, please be kind to yourselves and allow time to grieve and heal both physically and emotionally,
Sending much love,
Karen x
The Ectopic Pregnancy Trust
Registered Charity Number: 1071811
The EPT is awarded the PIF TICK as a Trusted Information Creator, the UK-wide quality mark for healthcare information
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If the information provided here or through the EPT website has helped you, you can donate towards our support services, volunteer, or fundraise to raise awareness.
Further information is available on our website.
Email us: ept@ectopic.org.uk
We provide a call-back support line: 020 7733 2653. We are able to provide support in multiple languages including British Sign Language.
Take a look at our newsletters and subscribe to our mailing list.
Detailed medical information can be found on our website. Please remember online medical information is NO SUBSTITUTE for expert medical advice from your own health care team
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I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy loss,
When we experience ectopic pregnancy we are suddenly faced with a life threatening emergency and it's treatment, reduction in fertility, concerns about the future and the loss of our babies. Experiencing any one of these is an ordeal, putting them together is immense and your feelings are completely normal.
Many women experience feelings of isolation after an ectopic pregnancy - I did, too. It is a frightening experience. Like you, I reached out to the Trust for support and I will be here for you to lean on for as long as you need.
Above all, please be kind to yourselves and allow time to grieve and heal both physically and emotionally,
Sending much love,
Karen x
The Ectopic Pregnancy Trust
Registered Charity Number: 1071811
The EPT is awarded the PIF TICK as a Trusted Information Creator, the UK-wide quality mark for healthcare information
*************************************************************************
If the information provided here or through the EPT website has helped you, you can donate towards our support services, volunteer, or fundraise to raise awareness.
Further information is available on our website.
Email us: ept@ectopic.org.uk
We provide a call-back support line: 020 7733 2653. We are able to provide support in multiple languages including British Sign Language.
Take a look at our newsletters and subscribe to our mailing list.
Detailed medical information can be found on our website. Please remember online medical information is NO SUBSTITUTE for expert medical advice from your own health care team
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